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writes:I been with the same guy for the past five years. We got engaged a few months ago. He is truely a wonderful man. Two nights ago I cheated on him with a guy I work with. I believe that the reason I cheated was because I was lonely. My fiance has been spending a lot of time in the evening away from home lately. I know I made a big mistake, but i don't want to lose my fiance. I still want to marry him. So, do I tell him ever or not? How do I go about repairing my relationship with my fiance? Where do I begin? Does my infidelity mean I shouldn't marry him??? Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWere both going to take some time apart. In a few months time were going to see where we are and how we feel. If we were to get back together we would have a lot of other problems to work through in addition to my cheating. I'm trying to think positively about all this because I know that I was unhappy before with a lot of things and in time i'm going to be able to change my life for the better. Thanks for all the advice.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (19 September 2007):
 Now you'll have to wait and see how he reacts. Be kind to him, he's hurt badly. This is the down side of cheating and it was all for nothing. A few days ago you thought it was worth it, now it's sadly not. There is a price to pay for infidelity. In fact, this type of thing can haunt a relationship for years to come. I hope others who are in the same boat take notice of this. It's always wise to end one thing before another begins. I would say, after he simmers down a little, if he's willing, try counseling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI told him I cheated. I wanted out of the relationship. I've hurt him so much. I don't know what to do now.
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reader, eddie +, writes (19 September 2007):
Again I say, don't get married. I think you're unpreparred.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo answer Eddie question: Yes this has been brewing up over time. I guess you could say I developed a little crush on the guy I cheated with. We started talking at work and communicatting over e-mail at the begining of the summer. That day we talked on the phone. I can't believe it but I actually came out and asked him to have a one night stand with me. He didn't agree at first. But I was persistent and managed to change his mind. I don't really understand why I did it. Thanks for your advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): You was lonely? i bet found him attractive too.Whatever reason you use to justify this,then he`s the wrong one for you.If you meet the right one,you wont want to cheat.
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reader, eddie +, writes (18 September 2007):
I'd be interested to hear how you got to the point where you actually physically cheated. What happened that day that got you to that point? Had this been brewing up over time? It doesn't' sound like a coincidence to me.
I do no think you're ready to get married. Marriage is a commitment. You made a commitment two months ago and you've already broken it. That is a bad sign.
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