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writes:First of all, I am a good girl. The girl most likely to succeed, least likely to ever do anything wrong. I have often been picked on by others for being so straight laced.The other night, however, I cheated on my boyfriend. I would say that I surprised myself, but really I didn’t. Despite what everyone (including myself) thinks, I am more than capable of hurting. What has surprised me, however, is my lack of guilt. I can think of a million things to blame for what happened, but ultimately I know that what I did was completely wrong. And yet I feel nothing. I have no urge to tell my boyfriend to get it off my chest. I am actually in quite good spirits. If I break it down, I don’t want to tell my boyfriend because I don’t want to hurt him. Not because I’m afraid to lose him, I’ve thought of leaving him before, but I do genuinely love him and don’t want to hurt him.Does this lack of feeling actually make me a complete psycho?
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reader, victoria_martinez  +, writes (25 March 2011):
OMG! We're in the same exact situation right now. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years...I have to say I was very faithful to him. I'm a young executive and so my reputation has always been the straight type and I don't have that 'bad girl' image. Yet I surprised myself when I met this man, also one of the executive in our company. We were promoted to a new city and we shared a flat together. I have this weird feeling that what we have is a different complete entity. I never felt that guilt. It was never my intention to cheat on my bf, life can really surprised us sometimes and this is one of my greatest surprised. Yet I don't intend to leave my bf, I thought about it and all the possibilities...so now, I tried to take it easy and just wanna be happy. =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2009): I have a wife like this. She doesnt think I know. From the guys standpoint it really sucks. Do you regret it? Would you do it again? If its no then yes ask yourself if hes a good guy. If he is then dump him quickly. If hes a jerk then it doesnt matter...Cheat all you want he deserves it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): oh my gosh you sound exactly like me. The only difference was I was drunk when I cheated on my boyfriend of a year and a half. I have not told my boyfriend and don't plan on it unless things get serious for us both...such as marriage. At this point I figure its stupid to tell him this as long as things between us stay the same. If he doesn't notice and the feelings between you two stay the same as they were before you cheated on him...I see no harm in keeping this screw up from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): ditch poor sod now! Empty your emotional space for something serious to come. This will not help neither of you. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): You just sound very self centered to me and it is as if you dont trully know yourself or what you really want. If you was not afraid of leaving him then you would have left him already. You are obviously afraid of something or are insecure. The reason that you probably feel no guilt as yet is because no one has actually been hurt, you havent been found out and you excitement and adrenaline pumping thrugh your system. You have also proved to yourself that you are not as innocent as everone thinks. I personally think it is nice to have some sort of innocence in a person and feel like a person who deliberatley goes out of there way to manipulate another is not worth anyone elses time.
Dont worry you are not a psycho and the guilt will come eventually when you realise that you have hurt the person who you say you sort of love when they eventually find out how selfish you really are.
I would say be a women and leave the poor guy alone rather than play games to prove how strong you think you are.
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Hi Hunny
I dont think your nuts love, But I would ask yourself if you are in the right relationship, I would really have to ask myself if I should be with this guy at all as If it was me I would think I wasnt happy and content and if I felt nothing afterwards then it would just scream at me that I really dont have any feelings for him at all. So I would have to let him go to find someone else so he could be happy as you really wouldnt feel like wanting to do this if you truely loved him and there would be a feeling of guilt afterwards, very much so hunny TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXX
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reader, rproctor  +, writes (3 June 2008):
Your not crazy, but you dont love him.. Because if you did, you would not have cheated on him, or at the least you would feel bad about doing it. You dont love your bf, and its best to leave him. You dont have to tell him what you did, but it might make the breakup easier, maybe he will see you for the slut that you are and tell you to hit the road. As you wallow in your own self pitty for fear that people think you are nothing more than a strait edged goodie goodie, you have, in fact, lost sight of yourself. You feel under peer pressure, how ironic... haa!
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