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writes:ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years but for two of them he has been incarcerated, while he was away i had an affair and stupidly told him about it. he chose to forgive me and recently returned home. most of the time everything is fine but every now and then he suddenly starts bringing up my mistake and it causes the worst arguements and he gets so nasty but he cheated on me first i have proof but he denies it he is adoment that he has not i found out whilst he was away he was talking to another woman via letters and txts and spoken to the girl who told me everthing. how can i get him to admit it? what can i do to make him stop throwing my mistake in my face? please help
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reader, James the Rocket  +, writes (28 August 2010):
Get the girl to come around and say in front of you both that he cheated with her. Then say you will stay with him if he agrees to not sling up the past any more.
If he says no, forget it. Or if he slings it up later, walk away then.
All those people bagging him for going to gaol; he did his time. Saying people are no good after they've been to prison is counter-productive.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (23 August 2010):
 He cheated first, so did you cheat just to get back at him? There is no victim here, you're just as bad as he is, only he went to prison so he's got one up on you. Two wrongs don't make a right nor do they cancel each other out. Chances are he's not going to admit it, you can argue to the point to where he may admit it but who has the time or energy for that? You can't stop him from throwing it in your face, unless you throw his cheating back in his face. Even that's not guaranteed so dump him then you won't have to hear him anymore.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 August 2010):
What are you even doing with this guy? You have the proof, and he still denies it. He wouldn't admit it if you had video! And to top it off, he's been in jail and you've cheated as well. Stop trying to get him to admit he's done it, and walk away from him. This relationship is dead, and he's just laughing at you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): Why do you need him to admit it if you already know? This isn't a game, you both cheated so you're both as bad as each other. The real question is, why are you still with him? He obviously can't be trusted and he's been in prison? Sounds like you need higher standards.
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