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anonymous
writes:I've been seeing this girl for over a year now and i've never really seen it as a relationship.Over the past couple of months I've started to feel weird and uncomfortable as it felt like it was getting too relationshippy. I'm quite a flirt but have never done anything with any other girl since we've been seeing eachother even though I've had the chance (in night clubs etc.) We get on really well and she is very pretty but I'm not sure what to do. I said I couldn't do it anymore because it was getting too much like a relationship and she admitted she loved me. I don't love her but I care for her so much.I broke up with her yesterday after saying I'd a week ago I'd give a relationship a go but i didn't feel right. I now feel rubbish and know for a fact I'll feel horrible if I see her with someone else. I have no idea what to do. We get on well but the whole relationship side like kissing and having sex doesn't feel right and i don't know why. I don't want to regret breaking up with her but at the same time if I got back with her and tried things properly it might end up the same and would be worse for her as we'd be closer.I'm not looking at getting on other girls or anything but I don't know what I want from us
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (2 June 2012):
 This is quite confusing to read. What you descibe is a relationship... you get on really well, you care for her alot, you are intimate together and you are not having sex with anyone else. But something is missing.Have you chosen not to have sex with other girls because you don't fancy them or out of respect for your girlfriend? I am really glad you're not having sex with other girls, but I ask this because I wonder if you are attracted to girls in general..? I mean no insult in that question.Why would it hurt you to see her with another man? Is it pride or more than that?I think you sound like a decent man. You are being very considerate towards her feelings and you are trying to do the right thing.I can't come up with any answers for you but just suggest that you think about the questions I asked and be really honest with yourself. If you decide to remain seperate from her (which I think is probably the right call), you will both hurt for a bit because you are close, but in the long run I think it will mean less heartache for both of you. And as you seem like a sensitive chap, it will also mean less guilt about causing her hurt. It's obvious you don't want to hurt her and I admire you for that. Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2012): Might you be gay? Serious question...
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