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I can't tell my family I have bulimia..would it be fair to tell my friend?

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Question - (14 April 2007) 9 Answers - (Newest, 18 April 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

hi, i think i may have bulimia, i cant tell my family about it but i think there may be one friend i can tell. is it fair of me to tell her or would that put her in an akward position, age 14

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007):

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i feel awlful and upset and im not sure what to do

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A female reader, Pork Hock Canada +, writes (18 April 2007):

Hey how are you? Thinking of you. Let me know what your thinking. I am thinking of you...don't let this take you. I'm here here, as are others. Talk to us.

PH x

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A female reader, Pork Hock Canada +, writes (15 April 2007):

Why not? Your bulimia HAS to be part of their lives, you cannot do this alone. You need constant support. YOU are the most important thing to your parents and your family, seriously any other problems aren't as important as you. Stop reducing down this issue with excuses. Tell them and go and see your doctor immediately. As a parent I would be devastated if my daughter thought that her problems paled insignificant to daily routine and stresses. They will be upset if you don't let them help you...you absolutely cannot do this alone. They may realise that the other problems/stresses aren't as important. This is a serious disorder and you need to respect yourself and them.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2007):

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i reali cant tell my family, they are so stressed out with other things

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A female reader, Pork Hock Canada +, writes (15 April 2007):

My older sister was anorexic and bulimic when we were teenagers. She used to binge and purge as a result of all the throwing up, lack of periods she had great difficulty conceiving when she got married. She used to do it because she felt she wasn't doing well enough at school academically and she was failing my parents. She is 36 and lived with this for nearly a decade. She is incredibly intelligent, a great mother and a wonder person. Don't talk to your friend she can't give you the answers, she will just try to make you eat...you need to identify why you are doing this? You've done a great thing that you know you have something that you want help with, but your friend can't help, she can only support you, it would be unfair for her to take that weight on her shoulders. To be frank, your parents have probably noticed or your teachers, it becomes more and more difficult to hide. Your parents are real people and once too had hang ups about who they were once, tell them you have something wrong with you and you want help. Don't let this take over your life for the next ten fifteen years...it is crippling, makes you depressed and unwell and feel lousy. Have pride in who you are, what you say, what you think, what you do is more important - just believe it, YOU, don't hurt yourself it isn't necessary, you are real, a human, just find yourself instead instead of seeing what you're encased in...you have so much to offer, be, think, love, think ....make a difference

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2007):

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umm, my friends 14 years old

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2007):

Tell your family. Even if you don't want to it's the right thing to do.

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A male reader, Royofthe Rovers United Kingdom +, writes (14 April 2007):

Royofthe Rovers agony auntWhy not tell your family?

Your family are the only ones who can REALLY support you through your recovery. Telling your friend might eleviate some of your worries but wont solve your problems.

Ideally you need to see a doctor about this and get the professional advice that you need. Your friend may not know what to do. But your family will and they can be there for you 24/7.

Do it as soon as you can please..

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2007):

Why can't you tell your family? Are you scared that they are going to shout and scream at you? Your family are the best people to tell, they should be able to help you get help and recover from this disease. Why don't you also look up some websites for bulimia and some helplines which could give you some advice? People have died because of this eating disorder, don't let that happen to you. Get help.

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