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writes:[OP original title]Me and my ex broke up round about five months ago (he dumped me). I really, honestly thought I was over him. That was until I started getting very close to another guy who helped me during the break up and we really liked each other. Everything was fine until I could tell that he wanted to kiss me and I just chickened out; this happened several times. I said it wasn't anything to do with him and he said it was okay. Things were back to normal quickly, but then a few weeks later we decided that it wasn't really going anywhere; it was a mutual decision. We are now very good friends. However now I really like another guy, and I am pretty sure he likes me. We were both at a party the other night and we were close. I was sitting on his lap and we were holding hands, I kissed him on the cheek a few times and vise-versa but no matter what I just couldn't initiate the first kiss on the lips. This made me wonder as with my ex neither of us had a problem with the first kiss. Since I just couldn't get the courage to do it and wasn't that eager to it has made me wonder whether or not I really am over my ex. We do talk sometimes as I am very good friends with his friends. The guy I like currently is very sweet and is lovely, but I just couldn't bring myself to kiss him. Do you believe in fate at all? If I did everything I possibly could to get over my ex then how come I still feel like this? All this time I have felt that there is something that is meant to be between me and my ex, but nothing has happened? Ever since he dumped me he has gotten mardier and mardier, his friends like him less and he has completely changed as a person. I have no idea why I am feeling like this, please do help. Thanks in advance :)
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reader, michaelch  +, writes (3 August 2010):
 Don't worry!You should probably be in private when you kiss the boy you like for the first time so it will be more comfortable.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (3 August 2010):
 Have you ever through that maybe you havent kissed the guy because you want to take it slow with him. Rush into a relationship at your age will only cause you heartache.
Just step back enjoy your time togther.
basically go with flow.
Oh and the own ex situation, be there for him as a friend if need be but dont get caught up in the idea of a world wind romance that you two possible have together. It isnt fate your feeling, just some left over feelings.
Has i always say all ex are exs for a reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBy the way I am 17 haha,I accidently put the wrong age thing
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reader, SofiaRose +, writes (2 August 2010):
Everyone feels this way after getting over a first love. There is probably some part of you that will always love him that tiny little bit.
Remember, this new guy is different you won't have the same experiences such as a first kiss and who initiates it.
Also, there may be a part of you that is afraid. Getting your heart broken is not easy to overcome and you may be worried of letting yourself feel vunerable.
But don't worry, time heals all wounds and if you two both want to be together, the pieces will just fall into place.
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