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male
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anonymous
writes:I cant stay the distance in bed and because of this I cant maintain a sexual relationship.I'm 36 and have a major problem with premature ejaculation. Because of this I've ended up in some very embarrassing situations and have never been able to maintain a relationship beyond the first sexual encounter.The most recent encounter, was after meeting an incredably sexy girl in a club, after dancing, chatting and kissing together for most of the evening we went back to mine but as soon as we got our clothes off and she went to put a condom on me I 'came' in the condom before she had even finished rolling it down!! It was the most embarrasing thing in the world!!! She kind of ignored it but it was awkward and she left shortly after. However, to make matters worse ..she came over a week or so later and after a dinner and with little proir sexual contact we got into bed again and virtually the same thing happened again, only this time, as she was 'guiding' it in to her I couldnt contain myself and came all over her landing strip!! After she left this time I haven't heard from her again (not supprisingly). I cant go on like this. Once I 'came' as a woman was pulling my boxers down, once whilst a girl was holding my cock as she reach into her purse to get a condom and another time I came seconds after a girlfriend put her hands down my trousers whilst kissing, causing her to pull her hand out in shock. I could go on but you get the point. Each time I've nearly died of embarrassment and shame. Not to mention the frustration the woman in question must feel - although they never tend to stick around, which speaks volumes in itself.I'm 36 and had hoped I would have grown out of it long ago and have gone through long periods of celebacy becaue of it. But I would like to meet that special woman and start a family etc... but at the moment see no chance of that happening, while I cant stay the distance. I've tried the lubricants and supplements that were supposed to desensitize it and even tried the masturbation thing, stopping prior to ejaculation trying to train myself to prevent it- All with minimal success. I cant masturbate prior to a spontaneous sexual encounter, so thats out the window - nothing seems to work.I've managed to attract some very sexy women, but can never stay the course - gone in 60 seconds might be an understatement.Guys if you have any experience with this please help and I need some female opinions here, what are your experiences with this?I've never been able to discuss it with woman, as they are often gone before you can say "premature ejaculation".
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): Hey, Maybe this can help you.
It sounds absolutely Ridiculous but here me out. Now, I have the same exact problem. I cant contain myself, Ive had several sexual encounters where before we even get fully undressed Ive already ejaculated.
Now, the best thing Ive found, and belive me Ive tried the masturbation before sex trick, and Ive done the "Long lasting" lubes ect.
Youre going to laugh , but sing a theme song in your head. A cartoon, or something from your youth. Distract the focus from the sexual act. If you add a little bit of tension release from the act itself, it helps. Its as if there is this predispostion for a bad outcome. Mentally as soon as things get heated, you already are worried.
Dont stress yourself, add that little bit of humor and distraction, try to focus more towards her. Perform manual stimulation for your lady friends, that way you both win. If she finshes via stimulation and your cannon goes off in the process, you both win.
Then when she offers to finish the job, you can politely decline and say, "I just wanted to focus on you"
everybody wins.
Hopefully this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): It sounds like you are running full. You need to cum a few times a day, once a day will not cut it.
If you lose some of your load, it should help you go longer before cumming.
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reader, celestial  +, writes (26 August 2009):
Please send me a private message. I can help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): Hey - here's hope. :o) I am a girl who fell in love with a guy with premature ejaculation so too speak. We had sex about 8 times, and each time itdidn;t last more than a few minutes maximum, but becuase I loved him so much, it didn;t matter and I still felt sexually satisfied in a strange way! It was nice just to hold each other etc.
Don;t get me wrong, I have had long lasting sex too with other guys, but this proved to me that it;s not all about time and distaance. You may find a girl who loves you regardless of your PE., but do try and get to the doctors, as it would be nice if you could keep it going even for a few mins. Good luck!! Nx
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reader, Pyroshadow  +, writes (26 August 2009):
Hey,
See a doctor. Talk to them about this. ED meds can help with this.
If you are not ready for that, then try to masturbate once or twice a day so you are not too excited before bet with a girl.
Everyone has one or two of these events. If they are frequent that is when you should see a dr. I had my gf turn me on so much I know she wanted it so bad that the second I entered her....
Yeah.
I guess its diffrent when you are dating because she will be more understanding. We fooled around till i was ready agian.
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