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I can't cope with this hurt while my boyfriend is away! Should I send him this letter?

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Question - (11 December 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 January 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I have written this letter to my boyfriend who has just gone travelling for 6 months to make me feel better. I am not sending it but want to get some thoughts and feelings off of my chest.

I cant cope with feeling this way!

Please e-mail me or phone me, please contact me, please invite me to come and see you and I will book the flight! I miss you so much it hurts, I love you so much, I cant wait to see you again. I am jealous that you get to see all those places and I cant experience that with you. I would love to share this experience with you. It makes me sad to imagine you over there without me, seeing those views, experiencing nice things, I so badly want to be a part of you and your life. I miss you so much it hurts. It hurts when I wake up in the morning and you are not there, it hurts when I go to bed at night and you are not there, it hurts that I cant feel your touch and your presence next to me. It hurts every morning when I check my emails and I have not heard from you, I wonder what you could be doing and what you are thinking about. I wonder if you miss me as much as I miss you. I wonder why you have not emailed me. I wonder if you are playing mind games with me. I wonder if it could be that you are so confident in us that you dont feel the need to contact me all the time to prove you are thinking about me. I need reassurance, I need to know that you love me too, I want to know if you believe in us. I want to know if we will be together when you get back from your trip. I wonder if I will be going out to join you for a few weeks. I am anxious at the thought that maybe you might change your mind about me during these 6 months, I worry you might forget about me. I want to believe in fate and that we are meant to be together, but I dont feel confident enough to do so. I think about you all the time and it is holding up my life! How can you have so much power over me when you are not even here!

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A male reader, roadman United Kingdom +, writes (1 January 2009):

roadman agony auntFind new friends to spend time with and build bonds with..It helps to ease the pain in these cases..Your already miles apart so not alot will or can happen no matter how many words are sent backwards or forwards..If he not keeping in touch then just find someone else who will,then when he returns you can make up your mind if you want to continue where u left off..

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008):

I have been in a very long distance relationship for 18 months so kind of know how you feel and all the doubts that run riot in your mind - particularly at night is the worst!! The thing that I have found great is Skype - its cheap (possibly free) and if you both have a webcam you can see each other at least - this can help. I think its worth trying to make contact and I think your letter is very honest and heartfelt. Never regret telling someone how you feel about them. If your relationship is meant to be it will happen. You also need to consider enriching your own life with 'exciting' things because I get the feeling that this one person is the centre of your world and your attention. Whilst the rest of the world is the centre of theirs!? In addressing the balance you will feel more fulfilled and less overwhelmed with the feelings and it can help to distract you. In addition if you have more things to say when you do meet, speak or email then this guy will realize you are getting on with your life too... so he better be careful not to lose a good thing in the process. I hope this helps.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008):

Awesome letter btw I would myself feel very special to get such a letter, Sounds like you have a hardcore love for em I would say chill and he will come to you with the emails and phone calls and such if he feels the same.

~White Hawk~

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