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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:my bestfriend and i have always got along really well until recently. she's a stronger personality than me and i've always just accepted that normally. until now. my whole year is going through a period of stress at the moment because of exams etc and suddenly her faults have all be highlighted. ive been thinking alot about this because it annoys me that i can't accept her faults and focus on her good points like i used to. she always talks herself up, telling everybody how incredible she is at music and academia in general when she's really actually not. if she can't do something there is always a reason why, such as 'oh i would have done really well in this subject but our teacher has just messed it up for me'. i dont know if i never used to notice or if she's only started this more because she's under stress but it's driving me nuts. she's highly competetive with work and likes to finish first and then talks in a baby voice to the teacher. she likes to put everybody down and talk about all her 'friends' outside school. i want to bring her down a notch sometimes but i don't think thats my job. i dont want to resent her because she's been a really good friend in the past but i can't see our friendship continuing if i have to hear about her brilliance for much longer. i recognize that she is not very confident but there's being realistic and then there's being annoying. i hate not being a good friend but if anybody has any advice i'd be really grateful because i want to appreciate her for the lovely person she usually is instead of this new person she's become
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2012): I think you need to accept that friends drift apart and sometimes there's nothing you can do about it. I would suggest that you don't completely ditch her as a friend, but perhaps you could cut down on the time you spend with her and find some new best friends. This may prevent you from resenting her and ruining years of solid friendship.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (24 February 2012):
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I know she's a friend but she sounds very self centered and shallow to me, if she puts people down, and bigs herself up it's because she lacks self confidence, but there is only so much you can take. I would pull her up on it, after all I would want my friend to do that to me if I was ever to get above myself, I would want to be grounded, thats what a true friend is about, to be able to be honest with eachother before she really does get on your last nerve, and you fall out for good. Tell her you love her she's your best friend BUT she needs to sort herself out because she is starting to show herself in a different light, and not in a good way.
Mandy xx
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