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writes:I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years!!! uhh i know, I am now 25. I come to find that he continously chaeted on me throughout the entire relationship. I moved to fla with him so he could go to school and all. I had absolutly no idea. He even had a friend that was like a sister to me, my absolute bestest! It gets worse, His best friend tells me he has been in love with me the whole time. Mind you me and this best friend had an amazing friendship during my relationship. He and I were always connected and got along beautifully. I do think that i am totally in love with him but hold myself back b.c of their friendship. It has been about 8 months now and I am still in Florida alone. the best friend has literally been my angel in helping me get through this terrible time. Is it morally okay for me to feel this wy about his best friend?Help! Confused?!?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): I wonder if the information about cheating came from your friends mouth. Be careful here all may not be as it seems.
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reader, Lila +, writes (26 October 2007):
 Not to be perfectly rude but who cares how your ex feels? He cheated on you repeatedly and took 5 years of your life.Even if his friend will only cause you minimal happiness and him alot of distress,then that is what he gets.I dated a sort of friend of my ex,a long long time ago,It was great we hung out it helped me get over my ex,who also repeatedly cheated on me,my ex was miserable,I was o.k. though. I never slept with his friend we didn't end up having any real chemistry,but without too much drama if was over and I had well moved on,I rarely see either one of them now,the decision didn't make or break my future in the long run.HAVE FUN,WANG CHUNG!
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reader, elitzabeth +, writes (26 October 2007):
 DO NOT GO THERE. Trust me, from my personal experience. You are young and available, plenty of guys out there. If you date your ex's best friend is going to bring tension between him and your ex; your ex and you. It is a tremendous mess coming your way. Why complicating your life that way. I don't think you love him, get away from him..
godd luck.. that is just what i think
Think ahead...and avoid the emotionsl troubles.. you already had enough for now why bring more emotionsl tension into your life...
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reader, tux +, writes (26 October 2007):
 How did you find out that he has been cheating on you? If it was from his "best friend," I would personally run the other way. As far as dating an ex's best friend, well that's an entirely different issue. Chances are is that they wouldnt be friends anymore and/or you'll be seeing a lot of your ex. Do you really want that? I would tread carefully and consider the many other guys out there that you could be dating. But if you choose to date the best friend, i'd recommend that is what you both want. I would even go as far as having a talk with your ex about it. But in the end, I would personally steer clear of such relationships if it will cause more trouble than what it is worth.
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reader, bct0025 +, writes (26 October 2007):
I don't want to sound mean or anything but I think this is very wrong. I don't know if it is just me but my girlfriend and I just recently broke up. We were together for two and half years. If she were to date my best friend I would go crazy. Your best friend is someone that you can always count on. If he has feelings for you still or even if he doesn't, your best friend is never suppose to do something like that. The ONLY way I would be like yeah go for it who cares would be if his best friend talked with your ex and your ex didn't mind. I don't know if it's just me but that's how I feel.
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