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writes:My boyfrind spent the whole night talking to his ex in a pub (her current boyfriend was also in the pub that night, i wasn't) Apparently they even walked outside the door together. He says they weren't going nowhere..that they just left because of closing time. Her boyfriend's friend then came out and "took" her away. If she wasn't taken away do you think something might have happened??? Do you think they would have cheated. He says they were just standing outside and weren't goin anywhere. But if that's the case then why didn't he call his friends and why didn't she call her boyfriend..We are split up now because of this. I dont know if i could ever go back and trust him. I really just don't know what to make of this whole situation. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): I remember reading another post from the other day. I think it is going to far now.
Talking to an ex isnt an issue. I talk with mine all the time and my boyfriend doesnt react in this way.
Obviously it is your choice on what you should do. That can not be decided for you.
If you really can not trust him, then there should not be a relationship. Therefore, you need to move forward.
However, if you feel you two can talk about it then try and figure it out!
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reader, shandygirl  +, writes (5 January 2008):
 I feel that a "BOYFRIEND" has no business spending more than 15 minutes 'socially' talking to another woman. Any longer than that to me, leans toward trying to build a relationship, and that is what this instance sounds like to me... a possible try at reconciliation. I feel you did the right thing by breaking up with him.
I had a boyfriend who did things like that all the time. Emails & 1hr phone calls from several ex's. Plus I always found a new phone number in his wallet. ( Yes, I am evil...I snooped... haha ) What in the world do they have to talk about for sooo long?
I know that you will do what your heart tells you to do ... It is hard to do what your intellegence tells you to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): You're making too much of an innocent conversation he had with his ex. Ex partners don't always have to be sworn enemies you know! Sometimes a split is an amicable one where everyone stays friends. That's the best kind of split.
Would you prefer that they were at each others' throats?
Phil
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