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writes:Hi. So I've been seeing this guy for just over 3 months now, but we got together when he still had a girlfriend so had to keep it all a secret from our friends. They broke up a couple weeks later and since then we have still kept everything quiet. Things have progressed and we ended up having sex (me losing my virginity to him) (I am 18 and he is 20) He has been really busy with the run up to christmas and work etc and hasnt been able to make time to see me since and I just got upset about now seeing him. I ended up telling one of our mutual friends (my oldest friend and his best friend) that we were sorta together. I felt so guilty i told my boyfriend but now he says I broke his trust and he seems really angry with me. I told him I wasnt giving up and that I want to be with him but I dont know what to do to fix things? Please help.
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (30 December 2010):
 Why is he keeping you a secret again? I kind of missed that bit.
Listen up why the hell after 3 months are you guys still a secret? What has he got to hide?
My man and I got together in similar circumstances and didn't tell anyone...anyone who didn't ask that is. We decided it was our business but if anyone asked we told them the truth.
What I'm saying is, why is it such a big deal to him? Ask him that. If he says you're not a secret then insist that he you and he plan a night out together to go to places where your friends are likely to be.
You deserve to be treated better than this.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (30 December 2010):
 Nah nah nah, don't be too apologetic here. After 3 months you shouldn't be a secret. If you're having sex now, it's just plain rude of him to expect this to be hush hush. What, is he ashamed of you or something?
Sure you broke his trust. There is little that can be done to fix that other than giving it time and showing him you're worthy of trust, but he also has to realize that you don't deserve to be a secret lover. That's just cruel.
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