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writes: I will try to keep this as short as possible.I have a male friend (acquaintance) I have known for 6 years. I see him about once a week maybe less and text and speak on the phone with him from time to time once a week.Over the last year the following has happened:Put his arm around my waist briefly in a pub until another friend turned up.Winks and smiles at me.Banters on the phone with me from time to time.Went to a party, apparently he had been touching me a few times (we had been drinking but I hadn't really noticed) and then he got locked in the toilet and when asked if he was ok he responded 'I need counselling off J' (meaning me and he said that twice). I couldn't tell if he was just winding me up on that.A few of his text messages from time to time seem to be flirty (I could be reading this wrong). I asked him to respond to me one day by text when I broke my phone. He replied 'stiffy'.On the phone one day I asked to borrow his ladder and he managed to twist it round to saying that I had not had it for a long time (and I know he meant the ladder because I had borrowed it before).I finally decided to tell him I liked him and told him he looked good for his age and hope I didn't embarrass him and he replied 'yes I know but thats the bits you can see the rest of it is in a right state'. No more was said after that and he has never been frightened off since that text.Another time after I told him I liked him about some bush/hedge pruning that had happened on a road (he was interested due to the work he was doing) and replied 'bout time to' (I must admit I like a well trimmed bush).When he sees me now he is not hugely flirty in public but he will be crude or use innuendo on the phone and I bounce it back at him. He is also 'touchy feely' as in rubs my arm but nothing more than that.I assume really that after I told him I liked him he would have made a proper move if he wanted to be with me. Even if he had just wanted a fwb it would have been the same.So I don't waste anymore time thinking about him, should I just enjoy the bantering or flirting with him or do you think he may want more but too scared to do it.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (25 October 2011):
 I have a friend like that (known each other since we were 6) when I was in my late teens, I thought I had fallen for him, but he wasn't feeling the same way about me, so we stayed friends and always had a great time together, we were actually each other's wingman in an odd fashion.
Sometimes having a male friend you can banter with is a blessing. As long as you know where you stand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you honeypie, that was the confirmation I needed and I wont waste anymore time on it now.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (24 October 2011):
It seems like you have told him at least TWICE that you like him ( in a roundabout fashion) and he hasn't reciprocated.
I would just enjoy the banter and stop trying to read into things that may or may not be there.
He doesn't seem like a guy who would be scared to ask a girl out.
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