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writes:Hi all,Im new to this but see people regularly reply to mesages which will be great for me...I have met, weekend before last a new guy.. i am 26 and he is 23 and i am really really excited and totally into him. We met in a club and he lives about 2 hours away but we agreed that this would not be a problem and i hope to move over closer next year (was going to anyway for work!!)He came over on his motorbike at the weekend to see me and we had a lovely dinner together sat night and really enjoyed each others company,, we came back to mine and had a bottle and a bit of wine together and couple of beers while we watched a DVD.. We ended up you know what on Saturday night, usually im a waiter but we were so in the passion moment! He went home sunday after a nice lunch together and a good chat.. last night i was out with friends and stupidly took my phone so text him at 815,820 and 830 saying what i thought of him and how wxcited i am and how much fun we'll have and wanting to take him away for a weekend somewhere.. he text back 'got home safe, good to be home, lets take things slow, we have plenty of time to, nitex'I am sooooo sooo worried today that i came on a bit strong, i text today to say i couldnt agree more lets take it steady and slow we have plenty of time' now i am petrified with worry that i may have come on a bit strong, and hope he still feels for me what i do for him... i have been out of the dating game for years so all a bit new and over exciting for me... have i scared him off a little you think... or am i just being silly... What do i do, he is such a nice guy and says he doesnt judge anyone..which i guess may help with the sleeping together thing he did say dont be ashamed afterwards.., will probably call him tonight but like i said we got a bit tipsy sat night and ended up in bed.. but just want to know that all is ok...i am soooo worried, dont want to appear desperate or anything and hope its still all ok.. We agreed i go up to see him this weekend....any advice would be SOOOO appreciated...thanks
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (4 December 2007):
 Hi,
as a male i have one simple piece of advise. If you text at 8.15 dont text again 10 minutes later, then 10 minutes after that. A lot of guys alarm bells will start ringing "clingy". If you text him, wait for him to reply , simple as that.
Otherwise I think you are over analysing this, this in itself can lead a guy to think you are a bit clingy. Whatever you do dont do what my neighbour does to every single boyfriend she brings back - constantly ask him "why" he says this or that. My neighbour is desperate and every guy she goes out with picks it up on the first date.
Relax, and take it easy, good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): Hi
As women, I think we think too much about things. Dont take what he said as a knockback. Instead, take it slow as both of you agreed and dont feel anxious when he doesnt respond quick enough.
Maybe you should try to hold off on texts and phonecalls for a few days. This is a personal test on your willpower. If he calls or texts you within those few days, then you'll know he's thinking about you but if you dont get any communications, wait a week then give him up. Your time is worth so much more spent on someone who is as much into you as you are them!
Hope this helps x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): Hi hunni, Im sure everything will be ok. You should back off a bit for the next few days dont text him or call him unless it has been previously arranged wait a few days. Its only monday after all text him about thursday and just say something like, 'Hi just wanted to see if u were ok. R we still on 4 this weekend' and see what happens, it could be that he isnt much of a texter, but try to play it cool. If he and you are meant to be it will be if not try not to be to upset and move on hunni as there is the right one out there for u. Good luck.
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