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writes:I have been friends with this girl for a long time now and untill recently we were close now all we seem to do is fall out over silly things. I know she cares for me as a friend but recently each time I have suggested meeting up she is always to busy yet makes time for her other friends. It came to a head yesterday when she called me as she had finished uni early so I asked her if she wanted to meet up at all again she said no as had loads to do. When I spoke to her later she was with a friend and spent the afternoon round their house. I lost my temper and a nasty row ensued we are now not talking. I was wrong to loose my temper but getting really fed up with keep being told to busy to meet up but has time for others she says she did not want to stop meeting up but then never wants to when i suggest it. It will be my birthday soon and she has organised a party and spent a fortune on a present i just do not get her. I would not want to loose her out of my life but just do not know where to go from here i am trying to write her an e mail but just do not know what to say can any one help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): I am the person that posted the question I have spoken to her today she was really angry still said not to bother e maling her our friendships over etc. I did ask her out but nearly a year ago so it has no bearing the rows have been about her being distant and saying nothing wrong
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (11 March 2009):
 Well obviously there is an underlying issue here but it is hard to tell from this what that is; I cant help thinking it's possible you asked her out, she said no and now is avoiding you because of that?? Something has to have happened to cause this sudden outbreak of fighting or she has to be dealing with some surpressed feeling that is not being talked about.
Writing the email I would start by saying how much you value her friendship and then apologise and try to encourage her to communicate how she is feeling then when you have sent the email leave it at; wait for her to get in contact with you. Good luck.
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