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41-50,
*aithful
writes:Hi I just want some advice. I'm very much in love with my partner and I would never do anything to break or harm the trust that we have for eachother. I've been thinking recently about getting a part time job to help us get by a little easier, but with our work patterns it means we wouldn't see eachother much - I recenly read an article in a magazine about sex chat, you can earn up to £20 per hour without even leaving the house! Better than working in a smokey bar all night. I wouldn't see it as being unfaithful and it would earn us both the extra cash we need. My only concern is asking him how he would feel about me doing it - obviously I wouldn't want to make him insecure about us. If he didn't want me to do it, I wouldn't. I guess my only concern is that once I've asked him... will he think any less of me? I may see it as a part time job.... but it is a little seedy. Do I or don't I ask?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): Awesome..good for you, dear! :D So, sooo happy you have made the better choice...Stay strong, and stay happy. Irishxx
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reader, Faithful +, writes (6 February 2007):
Faithful is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your reply's. Mmm.... a "thing to get their rocks off" too. Sounds terrible when you say it like that. Maybe I should re-think my get rich quick scheme.Many thanks mother Irish, i've seen the light...!
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reader, ady  +, writes (28 January 2007):
 as you explain you are in good relationship for this you should known his reaction against this thing ;so i think it is better to be clear fron the beigining to avoid any future problems.
best rgard;
ady
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2007): I know I will sound like an old fuddy-duddy here, but I have question- why you want to get involved in the 'sex-chat' trade, sweety? Don't sexually exploit yourself for money, dear. You sound like a bright, intelligent girl, who has got a good head on her shoulders, has a conscience and you know the meaning of commitment and love.
When you begin doing this line of work, you go into it with a dream of making big bucks but there is huge price to be paid to one's emotions, and psyche, one's sense of value. Chatting up sex talk with total strangers, who will treat you as simply a 'thing to get their rocks off' may eventually wear on your sense of self-respect and self-value. You take a such a big chance. And when you begin having this happen to you, everything in your life is deeply affected, including your love relationship with your bf, your family and friends. So unless you have the strength and perseverance to literally 'numb yourself' and treat this like any other job, I suggest you apply for evening work, elsewhere. It's will be a lot less pay, it will be harder work but gosh, you achieve a sense of pride doing something that will not affect your emotional well being, keep your relationship intact and will help you retain your positive outlook on life. Not to mention, your bf will take note at how you pride yourself and use self-respect in all aspects of your life.
If you feel you have the gumption and stomach to handle this, then at least come clean and be totally honest with your bf and tell him. You are one-half of this partnership...he'll expect your honorable actions by telling the truth. You'd want it from him, right? If he says no, then there is your answer and start hitting the pavement with your resume on hand. Mother Irish has spoken (lol) Good luck, dear.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (27 January 2007):
 Can you try and bring it up in conversation randomly? Like "You know my friend X, well she's just started working on a sex chat hotline." Gauge his reaction. If he's against it then you have your answer but if he seems neutral or interested tell him about the wages and the fact that she says there are jobs going there and what would he think about you going for it to solve some of your money problems?
CD
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