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writes:I am secretly in love with my cousin. Even though I have only seen her a couple of times. She lives in the states and sometimes my mom and I go visit our relatives. I can't stop thinking about her; so many nights spent fantasizing what it would be like to be with her. Even though I have these feelings I don't go near or talk to her much when I'm there. I want to be close to her. This year we haven't visited them because on an argument between my mother and my aunt, but assuming things get patched up and we go visit them, how should I go about approaching her (my cousin). I need a way to build attraction and comfort, without her knowing that I want to be with her (at first). I’ve been reading e-books written by famous and successful PUA (Pick up artists). Will there techniques work on my cousin? She lives in the middle of the Bible belt (Alabama) and is showing signs of a conservative lifestyle. How do I attract (not seduce) her? Any and all help is appreciated thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): well i think that if you like her go for it, you may have a chance with her, dont rush things everything takes time. talk to her like friends then start playig and teesing a little (not bad teesing. to be honest with you i also like my cusin, but i think that she is also attracted to me a little. i meen you can tell if she kind of likes you more then just cusins. so give it a try you never know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am very grateful so far for taking your time to write these responses. However, my mind is made about attracting her. I feel a powerful feeling that dwarfs any crush or attraction I had before. Just thinking about her induces a state of ecstasy that makes nothing else matter. I can feel and hear my heart pond quickly and tears of joy come to my eyes. I am looking for advice on how to attract her, however as in my question, I am grateful for your answers and time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): Why would you want to approach your cousin in that way?There are many other attractive girls out there so please don't focus on your cousin.To approach her may cause tension between the families.If your mom and aunt had an argument then this would probably hurt much more. So find someone else to focus on. You will probably fimd someone who is similar to your cousin,but at least she will not be family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): Attract her to what end? If you want only to be closer with her and to be friends, then using come ons would be misleading and besides its always best to be yourself and to be natural. Talk to her, hang out with her, do things you both enjoy that fun like skateboarding or what not. Romantically I don't feel you should pursue your cousin. I am not saying your feelings aren't real or anything but it may be something you'll feel weird about later or that she'll feel weird about later if I am honest. I had a step-cousin if such a thing exists who used to flirt with me a lot and when I was young I liked the attention, flirted back and now I feel so creeped out and guilty about that even though he wasn't a blood relative. I am generally fairly open-minded but I don't think family members should be romantically or sexually involved with one another.
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