A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have a serious issue with relationships and commitment. I have had 17 sexual partners since i was 16(im 25 now) 3 of which were serious relationships. Well, that said, the first one was a serious relationship, he left an ex girlfriend for me and we eventually had a son together. Shortly after we split i slept around an eventually started seeing a married man, this lasted a year. He was very controlling, manipulative, and vindictive. He mentally abused me and took what little self respect i had. When i eventually got away from him i went straight into another 'relationship' with another married man. This lasted 2 1/2 years and we have just split 3 weeks ago (my choice). I know i am a very bad person and i have no self-pity. What i need to know is how to break this vicious cycle. The ironic thing is i am actually a good mother. I just struggle to find him a stable male role model- his father gave up last year and chose women and booze over parent-hood.What i want most is a happy family life but i know this is unlikely to happy anytime soon.Any advice or possitive outlook is appreciated.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (2 June 2011):
You're not a bad person, just made a few bad choices in men and sex. You had the strength to leave the last relationship, so it's not like you are powerless to choose for yourself.
You know that these kind of relationships damage you and are unhealthy for you. Maybe the past is the past? You say you are unlikely to be happy anytime soon. Why not? What's to stop you starting to get to know more suitable guys, guys that want to be commited boyfriends / husbands and dads.
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