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writes:I am getting nervous that the man I am dating is intersted in someone else he works closely with. She is unavailable and I think that's the only reason he doesn't pursue it. He told me he had to work late on a project but when I saw him checking his email, this woman had been emailing him for an hour and a 1/2 that night and all her messages were about 3-4 minutes apart. They work together so I can't really question why she is sending him email but he seems to be distant although he says he loves me. Should I be worried or am I just being paranoid. Reply to this Question
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reader, sugabean  +, writes (1 March 2007):
i think you need to sit him down and ask him, dont accuse him tho! because if nothing is going on he will say you dont trust him! you will no if he is lying. if you dont you can just watch for other signs and decide for yourself....when I say there is a chance that there might be something going on i dont mean that in a horrible way i say it because i actually just recently went through something similar except i was the bad one interested in the taken one. She might be into him and he could be attracted to her. but mayb nothing happened!!!
select to have a private conversation with me if you want Ill tell you about it all i think i know what is heppening.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): I think the only way to be sure is to directly ask him, don't get accusatory, just tell him that you get the impression this women wants him and ask him if you should be worried....
That said, the best thing to do is go ahead and give your trust until you have proof otherwise, we can't really control another person, but you can fight for your relationship by really being there for him, be his friend and let him know you cherish him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): Have you considered talking to him about it? However..Do you trust him? If you did, him working closes with a colleague and emailing them wouldn't be an issue. I'm not saying something isn't going on, but perhaps you've got yourself into a relationship where trust is an issue.
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