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writes:I am not married, but living in a relationship of many, many years. I love my companion very much, she has been my everything so far.In regards to my female friend, I have known this girl, my friend, for many years but only in the last year we have been closer, developing a tighter bond, she likes me a lot and loves me as a very close friend, which I reciprocate, but in the last two months or so I know that my feelings for her are changing to a different kind of love and I don't think the change in feeling is mutual. She is amazingly wonderful and complements my life, but I'm afraid is just that, a complement, not a fulfillment, maybe I only see in her the qualities that my companion may lack. They know each other by the way but my companion is not a big fan of her.I do not want to hurt any of them but if I have to let go of one, with a broken heart because I love her, that would have to be my best friend. How or what can I do to stop these feelings for her? Should I let her know what my dilemma is? or should I tell her that I have to stop talking to her because of the feelings I am having?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 November 2009):
You have to ask yourself why you suddenly feel this way. You refer to your girlfriend as a companion, which sounds more like 'live in friend' (no offence there). I think you need to look at your own relationship and see what can be done to just bring it to life again. Usually when we feel something for someone else, it's because they're offering something that our partner can't. So you need to lok at your own relationship and focus entirely on it.
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