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anonymous
writes:Been with this man now for 1.5 years. On and off for the last 7 months, am due to have his baby in the next 3 months. He has been crap ever since I have fallen pregnant because he is in denial over the child. We were apart at Christmas and I ended up going to my brothers house. He hasn't told his family anything about me or the baby in case it doesn't come out his...he wants DNA. I have no issues about this but it has put a dampener on it all. I lost a baby 2 yrs ago from neonatal death so have been finding it hard to enjoy this pregnancy as am petrified of a repeat. On the way home, he txt me in the airport sending me conflicting txts...one min telling me he will wait outside my flat, the next goodbye and goodluck...this crap went on for an hr so I switched my phone off to keep my sanity. His last txt said bye...so after ignoring him totally for 1.5 day, I wrote one txt that read, I refuse to be your rebound or backup girl so let me make this crystal clear to you bye bye~ for good. He replied with OK..thanks..bye! so now ignoring him again cos that is all I can do. I am happy he understands that I won't be used. But now am frustrated. I just want it to be how it used to be and I wonder now that all this breakup crap has happened. Can it even be salvaged? am more into him then he is into me though I try to not let him know this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks.. am sobbing again. I just sent him this.
pls give me ur DNA sample now and after doing so,
stay d hell away from me. I dont want your stress and
false hope. u can meet me in a neutral place with it,
50e wilb given and u2 can sign my receipt2say all
monies returned in full. Since u dont want to be at
the birth pls give me ur sample prior. I shudnt be sobbing
at 6 months gone.
He had the nerve to write back this:
Sorry you have to wait till baby is born... then set up appointment with
ur doctor for p test..approx 600 e plus doctor fee. I will pay for this
if you stop all this nonsense..dont worry if its not my child.. I am gone...
Hope that makes you happy...
I never replied...just gutted...and sobbing. I am trying to distract myself here and pretend like I didnt read it..but how can I?? now that I have read that.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 January 2010):
That is the problem. He's just taken the idea of being a Dad very badly. The best thing you can do is to spend time on yourself and your unborn baby. Babies can sense stress in the womb, so spoil yourself a bit and spend time getting ready to be a mum. You're going to be perfectly okay. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks...I find it hard to move on cos of the baby...I think that is what is really blocking me..any ideas?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 January 2010):
I don't think you need a guy like this in your life. He's not up to it at all. The important thing now is you and your baby. He clearly was never ready for a child to go to these cruel extremes, so he's not worthy of another moment of your time. Give him the DNA, then make sure he pays for it.
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