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writes:Maybe someone out there can help me figure this situation out. I am rather puzzled. Last nite my BF of 2 years and I texted back and forth, the usual hello, etc. Then he sent me a couple of risque pictures of himself. I was super excited about that because he hadn't sent me any in a long, long time and I will often (at least once a month) send him pics of me.I of course told him how much I liked the pictures, how turned on I was turned on, flirting, etc. We texted just a couple of more times, then it got quiet for about an hour. No big deal. Usually how it works. I usually go to sleep between 1-2 AM and make it a point to alway text him goodnite. Last nite, I was more tired than I thought and ended up suddenly falling asleep around 2 AM. Just before 3, I hear my phone and it's him asking if I'm awake. I text back I am barely awake, I had fallen asleep. He gets SO mad at me for not telling him goodnite after he sent those pics, that I was totally disrespectful, rude, etc. I explained I had simply fallen asleep and it was not my intent to be disrespectful.I said I hope you got all my texts telling you how much I really loved the pics. He said that isn't the point, I should have told him goodnite after that and it wasn't the point that I fell asleep, liked the pictures, etc I should have told him goodnite. He was so mad he refused to take my call to apologize. He texted that he was too mad to talk to me and if we talked it would be bad and cause him more anger. He said he will talk to me when he cools off.I do feel bad that I didn't tell him goodnite, but it happens once in a great while where either he or I will fall asleep unexpectedly with no goodnite. We usually text in the morning, explaining we fell asleep, etc. Not a major big deal. When that has happened in the past he has explained its no big deal, he understands I am tired, and have to work in the morning.Last nite after the pics, something was way different. I don't know if he feels like I "used" him in some way. Or, if there is something else entirely unrleated that is actually bothering him and this is just how he chose to lash out about the real problem.He has (overly?) reacted before to small things like this and I later found it was because he was drinking and/or there was something else that was really bothering him and not the small issue. I am baffled and feel really awful. Anyone have any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): Yes i think he has overreacted. I could understand more if he had carried on texting and you fell alseep. But as he sent no text for over an hour, no wonder you fell asleep!
I fall alseep while texting every now and then, so does my boyfriend. Its not a big deal and he shouldnt have reacted like this. Its a nice thing that you text each other goodnight, but he shouldnt be angry if you dont.
You could try to sit down and ask him whats upset him?
Good luck:)
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