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writes:im 17 years old and want a baby with my 20 year old bf. im almost 18 and have a lot going for me but i love him so much and he really wants a baby and so do i were planning to get married and we are moving into together our parents are supportive about our relationship; i dont plan on getting pregnate till were married but i think i want a baby but by the time we get married ill be 18 years old and starting to get set in live. i dont have to worry about money even thow im young ive enough were i never have to work but plan to if i can but the question is should i give up my modeling and acting/singing for my husban and a child i feel its right but i also feel like im letting my fans down. i would give anything for him and our relationship so is us having a baby the right thing i feel it is but i cant help but what people would think iam a role model for a lots of young girls as well as teenagers i dont want to give out that being pregnate and a teen is ok so is this gulit post to be there? but thank you for your time h.d.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2007): hey im 17 and my boyfriend just turned 20 in march and our baby is due in september.. he wanted kids but i wanted them now but i also wanted to wait until i got married i love him alot and then i got pregnant and we are both super excited but we live with my parents and we arent getting married but it does change your life alot i was goin to start college this fall and all those plans have changed because i have a baby on the way.. if you tell him you would rather wait maybe he will understand you are goin to have to get use to your life with him and you married first too so it sounds like you have alot goin for you not very many people make it in the singing business and if your already starting your career with that it might go down hill just tell him that you want to get use to oyur work and getting married he should understand its a hard decision but i know from experience im totally in love with this baby inside me but they arent cheap and im not starting college anymore until next fall it will definitely change your life alot and you have enough to worry about since you are moving in with your bf just really think about it and sit down and talk with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): WHY? Why are you in such a hurry to have a baby? They are not as easy as you think! I was 22 when i had my first and believe me that was tough! I had a second one at 24, two before the age of 25. I gave up work, cos i had no one to look after them and we couldn't afford child minding. Life was awful. I had a really awful tough time. Stuck in the house with a child on a wet November day, i cried until i couldn't stop. Think carefully. You cannot give them back when you have bad days. You have a career that pays money, keep at it. Get some better education, maybe get your grammer sorted out, not being rude, but you come across as a very bright girl, just in need of some further education. I think you will be making the biggest mistake of your life if you have a baby now. You have a lovely bloke - just enjoy what you have together and enjoy life.
Take care and keep in touch if you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): A few things come to mind when reading this...you sound like you have not finished high school. You say you have enough money to live on so that you never have to work. Never is a long long long time, you may be a model now and making great money, but your career as a model will not last forever, and may be over in a few years or less, and you may become yesterday's 'news as modeling is very competitive.
You and your boyfriend are very young, you will be a different person at 25 and 35 than you are today at 17, you don't have enough life experience to even make this life decision without the advice of others.
Your boyfriend may be trying to get you to agree to have a baby so that you will then be financially entwined with him and may be an ulterior motive that he has to never work, or does not have to worry about work and can enjoy playing while you work.
I think it is really a bad deal to get pregnant before marriage, anything could happen, you may not end up married and then you would be a young single mother, what a lot of fun that would be.
Your guilt over your thought of getting pregnant is there for a reason. It is called having some common sense, listen to it, it is your brain talking and your heart had better listen if it does not want to get broken over a life changing event that you have just felt you wanted, but not fully thought it through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): Get educated first. Learn how to spell. Make some money- get some insurance grow up a bit then think about having kids. I'd hate to see your kids being raised like you have been. Good luck- raising children is a 24/7 job. It will change your marriage and your body so keep that in mind too.
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reader, waza2007  +, writes (27 April 2007):
hiya,
i wouldnt get pregnant if i was you (i couldnt anyway :S coz im a lad) because it ruins alot of peoples lives.
a lot of young girls have this fantasy baby in their mind but its so far from the truth - awake all night, headaches, morning sickness - and thats before the babys born. it gets alot worse. . .
maybe this may perswade you but you know best. maybe ask for your parents opinion and your boyfreind. but youve got your whole life ahead oh you at 17! youll miss so much and i would be a shame.
maybe this helped
waza x
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