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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): First of all the age of consent is 16 let's get that straight! I had sex at 14 and it was to someone who I thought I loved. Don't feel pressuered into having sex by this guy - if ever you do - ditch him, he ain't worth it sweety. There needs to be real communication between the two of you to find out where you stand as to whether this is going somewhere or not. At least then you can move on if he isn't that interested in you as a person and only after one thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): i was 14 when i first had sex and my partner was 16 it all depends how mature you are, i was ready and im married to him now with a daughter but it doesnt always work out like that. you need to sit with him and talk about it, if hes not willing to talk and it feels like he is trying to pursaude you to sleep with him he is not worth it and only after the sex. respect yourself first dont let other people make you feel like you need to have sex to fit in. youll regret it if you do. your first time should be with someone special who you feel in love with and comfortable with and who doesnt push you into it, and it should be romantic not just a bang behind the bike sheds or whatever. and please be safe.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (3 March 2007):
 If someone was asking this question within the legal age of consent i would say go for it four years is nothing.
But at fourteen you are two years below the age of consent and your male friend could get into serious trouble if anything sexual were to happen between the pair of you.
If he is willing to wait two years for you then go for it by all means, but don't let him force you into anything you are not comfortable with.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): if you know the furthest he has got with a girl then he knows what hes doing with you whereas you if you havent had sex then you wudnot be to sure about it. Dont let him pressure you into anything at all. If you choose to loose your virginity to him then hopefully you know him for a long time so you are sure that he will stay by you for a long while.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (3 March 2007):
 Does he know how old you are? Pursue this relationship by all means but if you're sensible you'll take it very slowly and keep it light with NO sex until you're 16. If you can both handle this and he respects you then he'll not try to pressure you into sleeping with him. If he does then get rid of him fast as he wants to be with you for the wrong reason.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): I think that you should wait a few years before pursuing a relationship between the two of you. He might end up pressuring you into having sex.
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