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writes:hello. i know what you are going to say when i tell you this but please, try and understand. im a 12 year old girl and a year ago i had a bf and we lasted 8 months, like a proper relationship. we were going on this school residential trip thing to Paris, but i couldn't go cos i couldn't walk. before he went to Paris, while i couldn't walk, he always helped me and he was my best friend. he was always there for me. they went to Paris nd i was getting weird phone calls cos the signal was weird nd i couldn't make out what my friends were trying to tell me. i received a voice mail message from my bf telling me to ring him back wen i got it. i was on holiday so i thort okay nd i rang him back. he told me that he was going out with one of my best friends and had been all week. wen i got back off holiday my friend showed me pictures ov him kissing th girl he was going out with. i've loved him ever since. lyk proper love. he still says he's always gonna be here for me, and that he's sorry, but i jst wish he'd love me again. now he's going out with my friend and has been since round about october08. she treats him lyk utter crap nd he cant see it. its making me ill nd im writing this now becoz im off school because of it. i dont know what to do or how to get over him or how to act around him. please help me even tho you might think im jst a little girl who knows nothing about relationships or love. its really making me ill. thanks for reading x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks.the reason i lied about my age is because i didnt think this website would let anyone under the age of 13 register, so i put i was 14.i couldn't walk because i had this chronic fratigue thing and im 5ft 7 so its quite a problem, it has returned in the last week so no i cant walk.i couldn't go to Paris because it has no disable use, but if it did i would have gone in a wheelchair. i went to Wales instead with my mum, and it did have disable use so i went and stayed with my auntie and uncle. i apperciate your concern.its just so hard to move on. my mum nd friends keep saying "oh come on your so much better than him" and "stop being so dramatic" nd stuff lyk that but now i have both your advice i should be able to easier.thankyou :)x
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (11 March 2009):
 If you are wanting a kind answer then you should not have lied about your age at the top of your question (I know you have wrote you are 12 but when you signed up to this you put in a different age so now when I view your question it says 22-25). This wont help with people's attitudes towards you, honesty is always the best policy.
With regards to your problem, there is a lot that doesnt make sense. You say you couldnt go to Paris because you couldnt walk - how come you couldnt walk if you dont mind me asking? Can you walk now?
And if you couldnt walk then why did you go on holiday? Surely if you could manage to go on holiday then you could go to Paris?
But regardless of all this, this guy cheated on you with your friend! You should not still love this guy, you should be angry with him for what he did to you! And why are you still speaking to this girl? If she was your friend then no way would she have done this to you.
He sounds like an immature little boy who only thinks about himself and doesnt care about anyone elses feelings. Any normal person after being with someone 8 months would not do what he did, he is not worth you giving him the time of day.
I would stop seeing him or talking to him alltogether in order to get over him, while you think you may be friends, realistically what he and your friend have done to you is unforgivable and I would not want people like that in my life.
I promise you it will get better in time, you are hurting and that is natural. But the best thing to do is throw yourself into school and other activities, keep busy and you will find that you are not thinking about him so much. The less contact you have with him the better as if he is not around you so much it will give you the space you need to move on.
You are not a silly little girl here, I think you have had a pretty serious relationship as it was for 8 months. But dont think that this guy is the one for you, you are so young and you will meet many more amazing guys in the future. Just concentrate on yourself for a while, do well in school and work for a better future. Boys should be something that make your life a little better and more fun, not bringing you heartache and pain.
I hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou:)x
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