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writes:Hi. I am a mom to a 16-year-old daughter, soon to be 17 in a few weeks.But she's not the person I'm asking about.It's my husband. We decided to have a family day out, but it was also an opportunity to get my daughter some presents.Me and my daughter decided we'd do a girly shop / spend time at a coffee shop for an hour or two and I said to my husband that he could spend a bit of time in his favorite tech/gadget shops as long as he looked for and bought our daughter something. He agreed to it.But that's the big issue here.The present he bought our daughter was the wrong size, and he'd spent most of the budget on food.He'd admitted to me later that night that he'd spent most of the budget on food, eating three veggie tacos from a local Mexican restaurant, and then bought himself a takeaway pizza and some soft drinks, before realizing it was almost too late to get our daughter's present, so he went to a sportswear shop, bought an Adidas crop top in black, knowing how much our daughter loves the brand... only it was a size S not a size M.I should point out it was an expensive Mexican restaurant he went to and he had a full takeaway pizza not just a slice. He can't remember how much he spent on them.He showed me the present later that night but it would have been way too small for our daughter and would have showed off way too much midriff and been too tight.No wonder my husband felt queasy when I told him we were having veggie tacos for dinner that night. I thought it was strange, out-of-character. No wonder he struggled to eat them with us that night and eventually hurled when he went the bathroom.Usually I can trust my husband to spend money wisely, but this behavior seemed odd and concerning. He normally doesn't overeat and certainly is not overweight.I wonder what could have gotten into him?I did try asking him later that night, when we were in bed, but he didn't want to talk about it.It was meant to be a road trip for shopping but the day out turned into a slight disaster.We've only got 4-5 weeks before our daughter's birthday and he's got to get her something.Now the big question is, should I be concerned about this, the food that is, and whether this is a sign of anything else strange?Usually he's good with finances and good at buying presents but this is very out-of-character.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2022): I really think I know what is going on.You said veggie tacos.Are you by chance a vegetarian? Maybe your husband is hungry? Maybe he needs to eat meat but you might not let him?Guys need lots of protein in their diet….let him eat meat!
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reader, QueenCupcake  +, writes (3 June 2022):
 People slip up sometimes. I wouldn’t hold it against him just yet. He’s only ever done this once, you’ve said. So just try to see if he’s behaving differently in other ways. As for the present, can’t you just go back the next day and change the size?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2022): Does your husband have high metabolism? I do, and there are days where I am absolutely ravenous…I will eat everything in sight, and multiple times a day. Everything will sound good to me from healthy foods to junk food. Then I have other days where I’m able to control myself better, either because the hunger isn’t as overwhelming, or there aren’t as many foods that sound good. I also have days where I’m so hungry but don’t eat as much, because there is one particular thing that sounds GREAT, but isn’t available to me at the moment, or I don’t feel like cooking it or going to the store to get the ingredients. Yet nothing else will do, so I skip eating because anything else would be forced and not taste good to me. That all sounds really weird to you, right? I’m wondering if your husband deals with this and prefers to keep it to himself because other people will definitely find it weird. It drives my husband crazy sometimes!
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