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writes:hello i been maried to my husband for 2 years now. I meet him on aol..though come to find out we had meet in the pass but I was married at that time..I have been a full time working mother just up until the thanksgiving holiday and got laid off. I told my husband we needed groceries in the house and he made a smart comment in front of our 5 year old son as well as his 12 year old daughter that he puts a roof over my head and its not his fault I dont have a job and I can buy the groceries...I explained to him that we are married and should be supporting one another..he made a comment that he dont support no bitches..its really made me open my eyes and just about to the point to end this relationship...I just want a happy family...his mother has never accepted me but thats ok because I dont have to live with her or sleep with her but it has cause hardship on the relationship due to my husband never stands up for me...as for my parents, they have helped him with a future career that could lead to great money for our future, but he states he will never support me I must do for myself...I am so hurt by that comment...I was in a marriage for 15 years prior to this and never had the problem about support..can someone please give me some advise..i really hate to break my family up...thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): You're not some bitch, you're his wife!
What you have is a sorry, disrespectful excuse of a man on your hands. He's not supportive, doesn't stand up for you, and now doesn't want to feed you or his children. So much for that happy family life you want, huh?
Is this man and his behavior what you want your children to model? Do you want your daughter to marry a man such as this? Do you want your son to grow up and treat his wife this way? As much as you don't want to do it, I see no solution other than breaking up your family. It might actually be the best thing for you and your kids.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (9 December 2010):
 Sounds like a pathetic little man. Get rid of him asap.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (9 December 2010):
 You need to tell him how you feel. You were laid off? Are you not on unemployment benefits? If so, why not tell him that since he thinks he's the sole supporter in the family, you'll take your money and keep it all to yourself.
What a complete jerk. At a time when someone is hurt, vulnerable, and shaken, he comes out with that crap and called you a bitch in front of your kids. He's never done this before?
Here's what you do. Try to talk it out with him. Be calm, concise, and explain to him that calling you names in front of the kids is flat out unacceptable. Explain that your money supports the family, and that if the shoe was on the other foot, would he like you emasculating him like that in front of the kids? I think not.
If he won't listen and continues to be a jerk, then bide your time, get back on your feet employment wise, and leave him. I know you don't want to break up the family, but don't you think that the kids would be better off not hearing that kind of venom?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (9 December 2010):
 It is too late for that. His behavior, his reluctance to be a devoted husband is appalling and if it continues it will surely tear your family apart anyway. I am sorry to say this but I would suggest that you leave him anyway so that your young children will not have to endure listening to this man spite his own wife.
I hope that helps.
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