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writes: I want to know what to do im married but my husband just doesnt seem to want to make love to me, he would prefer to look at porn on the net an on videos ive tried everything what can i do
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2006): http://www.dearcupid.org/question/strippers-pornwhats-wrong-with-women-saying-that-we.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2006): Jadzia is right. There are porn addictions groups. Look into that for the hubby.
May I also recommend a book called "Pornified~How Pornography is Transforming Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families." by Pamela Paul
You can get a copy and should to help you better understand what your husband is suffering from and to know that you are not alone in how you feel and think about this sickness your husband suffers from.
I bought mine at Indigo/Chapters.
Please seek some individual counselling as well as marriage counselling ASAP.
Best of Wishes.
*hugs*
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2006): my boyfriend just recently starting doing the same thinghe used to sneak up on me in the shower, make love to me everyday and now i feel ugly and unwantedhe hasnt tried to sleep with me in monthswe had sex one time a few weeks ago and thats because i initiated it...not to mention how embarassed i was to do it because the last few times i tried he was too tiredi catch him looking at porn all the time and he says hes attracted to me and it hurts so much i dont want to spend the rest of my life with someone who doesnt even want to be with me...seriously what does it prove when he wont even look at me but he looks at porn all the time
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reader, empty1 +, writes (7 May 2006):
I am sorry you have to deal with that I'm going through kind of the same thing. My b-friend of 5 years always watches porn, he will spend a lot of money on it. And he could get the real thing for free, I'm always in the mood and he NEVER wants to. I have tried to talk to him about it but he says I love you so much, your being stupid, it's no big deal. But I feel so un-wanted.
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (3 May 2006):
 Porn can be an addiction as much as drugs or alcohol. Just with any addiction the addicted can't change until they want to change.
You have to face that your husband is addicted and needs to be treated as an addict. You can try an intervention, talk to his family, your family, his friends, his co-workers, all come together and confront him with his problem. Then you can remove all temptation from him, throw away any porn, cancel internet, etc. Then you can try to get him into counselling and you can try to make him go to a sex addict support group.
Yet as stated before, if he is not willing to change he won't. Then the question is if you are willing to put up with this in your life?
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reader, Anja +, writes (3 May 2006):
 Get him to seek help...no seriously!! If he loves you why would he be looking elsewhere for his sexual enjoyment? That is not right. Do you think his feelings for you have changed? How long have you been married for now...you don't give a lot of info here so is a little difficult to comment. Try and talk to him and tell him how you feel, ask him how he feels about the marriage, what was the reltionship like when you were first married? I think and hope that the marriage is worth saving, as long as he does, if not then walk away... good luck, all the best! x
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