A
female
age
36-40,
*weettea
writes:I have been married to my husband for 5 yrs.. We have two sons who are 5 and 1. Shortly after our first son was born, my sister in law told me that an ex girlfriend of my husbands had spread a rumor around (months before) that they had slept together. While the ex was saying that, I was freshly out of highscool, in early pregnancy, and living with my parents in another state. After his sister told me I asked him about the rumor. He said it was not true and his ex was trying to cause problems. So I dropped the issue. Now I find out that she is a friend on his facebook. I don't really think it's appropriate for her to be on there, considering what happened. I voiced my opinion to him and he said she sent him the request. He said that he accepted her because he accepts anyone who sends him a request. Still, I don't feel right about it. He is also secretive about things like having a password on his computer account (that I don't know)and not accepting a friend request from a friend of mine on facebook(because he feels like she'll say things about all the chicks he has on there). Another thing, a few months ago he left the computer on with his password logged in while he was at work. I was at home and I got nosey. I found pictures of his ex girlfriends that he had copied off their myspace accounts. Some of them were provocative and some not. His defense about that situation was that they were a part of his "spank bank". He said that he was not in the wrong about having the pictures since a few months before I was honest with him and told him I had a sexual fantasy about a co worker of his. I don't care anything for the co worker, but he is attractive and my mind wondered. I don't think it is the same, because I have never cared for the guy and don't keep pictures of him secretly or have him as a friend on facebook. My husband says I am a hypocrite for thinking that way. I'm I in the wrong or is he? I would like to hear your opinions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): He's definitely in the wrong. He's clearly keeping in contact with these women for a reason, and collecting photos of his exes for his "spank bank" is disgusting. He's also being hypocritical about accepting all friend requests, but not your friend's.
This guy is sending out some red flags!
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