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41-50,
anonymous
writes:hi, i have been married now for less than two years, we have had a tough time with our marriage to be honest. Broken up and have gotten back together since, originally we had broken up, as he did not know if he wanted to be married, he was confused. Anyhow, i have missed my period and think i may be pregnant, we have discussed this and he is saying that i wanted this to happen and i am trying to get pregnant on purpose, which is not true, i told him i was not taking the pill a few days prior to us having sex, (i was on antibiotics) but he said he forgot, now he is blaming me and saying it is my fault if i am pregnant, he does want children but not now. Sometimes i just feel like packing it all in and walking away....baby and all if need be. I have put every effort into this marriage, i just feel what makes me happy will always be different to what makes him happy...? Please advise what to do?
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reader, velvetluv21  +, writes (23 April 2008):
Chances are you aren't pregnant just screwed up because you stopped the pills midstream. Most people, me included, take several months off the pill to get pregnant. Don't worry about it, kick him to the curb, and find someone who actually loves you to have babies with.
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (22 April 2008):
 It seems to be a one way street here, you couldnt take the pill due to takin antibiotics which leaves him wearin a condom and by the looks of it, he didnt wear one.
He really shouldnt be blaming you when he should be wearin protection to start with.
A marriage takes 2 to make it work and to keep goin, eg, 50% 50% not 80% 20% (80% meanin your doin more).
Talk about him not havin protection on in the first place and talk about what you want (your wantin a baby and it is your body).
Sorry there's not much advice here from me but i hope it helps.
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reader, DearSteve +, writes (22 April 2008):
 First things first: Get a pregnancy test. The sooner you know for sure whether you are pregnant or not, the sooner you can look towards sorting this situation out. Your husband seems like a very indecisive man, and you’ve shown nothing but patience. Regardless of whether you are pregnant or not, your marriage needs some TLC – more so if you are expecting. There are many reputable institutions that you can look to for support. Unfortunately, I don’t know where you’re writing from so I can’t make suggestions, but your local church may offer counselling or guidance; that’s a starting point and perhaps a better option that upping sticks and leaving. Nobody can tell you what to do in these circumstances, because the answers have to come from you. Whatever you decide, I wish you the very best of luck.
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