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writes:I am 20 weeks pregnant, the father is the love of my life for the past 6 years. We are pregnant with our second child. 5 days after finding out I was pregnant he phoned home to say " he did not want to come home anymore". We have been in therapy, we both love each other and he came to the realization we could not live together but still wanted a relationship. Not traditional circumstance but I was ok with it. Two weeks ago in therapy he said he did not want a relationship, only wants a relationship with his kids. This is incredibly heart breaking for me. I feel I have lost my best friend and lover. I am trying to be very positive, but still feel hopeful. He has reassured me I should move on and have faith in something other then the two of u's together. It is a horrible feeling. I have a incredible group of supportive friends. I am an attractive person inside and out I am not fearful that I wont find love again, i just only see my life with him. Is there anyone out there who has gone through this? How to cope?
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reader, Denizli  +, writes (17 September 2010):
 I personally haven't gone through anything like that but I've known people who have been going thru something like that; friends of mine, and cousins.
First of all, are you still in love with him? You know sometimes it is bigger the fear of being alone than the love itself we have towards someone. I've personally experienced that, then its harder to move but it's possible.
If that guy can't give you what you deserve, then you just have to let him go, he's not worth your time.
It must be hard when you've seen your life with someone then they just go and break your dreams and everything you've built together, but eventually you will understand things happened for the better.
If he doesn't love you anymore or has made his decision of ending your relationship and even therapy didn't help, I don't think there's much you can do to make him change his mind.
You have to move on, it will be not easy but you can do it, you have a kid coming soon,
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