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writes:My husband and I have been married four yrs. He just recently let me know that he doesnt like asking if i went before he cums during sex. Along with that he let me know he kinda thinks im selfish for wanting to go more then 1 time. What should i do or say to make this better?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2007): Not fair my ass, you should want to be satisfied in sex, I feel like that's a big part of it, physical satisfaction, no? Yea, once is nice, but let me say 5 times is VERY nice indeed. I think you should explain to your man [maybe not as patronizingly as i maybe coming off as] that women are different, while it's defintely the norm for a man to go once, but women are physically capable of having more than one time deals, and i wouldn't like my man not taking advantage of such things.
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (7 June 2007):
 I think it all depends on if this is just sex or oral sex to start with as a man normally knows when a woman has an orgasm.
Number of times during sex is not the important thing but having sex more than once a week is a bonus to anyone I think.
You are both young and should enjoy the times you have sex and make it more about the whole experience than the number of times you do it.
It does all depend on if you have multiple orgasms during the first time or not and that is what you should explain to your hubby. If you are not being satisfied then perhaps he should satisfy you in other ways - perhaps orally etc.
Do you role play at all or dress up and feel special or just get on with sex?
A good heated session of sex with multiple orgasms was always much more satisfying personally for myself with my ex than the number of times we did it. I think it does come down to whether you feel satisfied the first time round.
Talk more openly with your hubby honey and see where you go from there.
Take care and keep us posted eh!
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): Why does he have to ask if you got off? Don't you make noises when you are getting off? Try showing him some sign that you're getting off..Then let him get off, then be done with it. You don't need to cum more than once during sex..that would get a bit annoying. He's trying to hold off until you cum multiple times, and that isn't fair.
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