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writes:How do you tell a difference between a player and someone with real genuine feelings. Any signs to watch out for?I was kinda seeing this guy for about a couple of months and he treated me well, but then i found out how he was only using me for sex. So, any signs to look for?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Well it might be a little tricky but good deep conversations usually help. When a guy is just in it for the sex he will likely avoid personal or intimate conversation, will almost likely always invite you to places/activities in which you will end up hooking up, will talk excessively about sex or something related, will show no interest in meeting family or friends. There are of course, some really good ones, but at least in my experience most of them show their spots rather quickly.
I used to wait until we were making out or something and ask something along the lines of: "if you HAD to choose between being friends or having sex right now, what would you do?". Most of them said sex so I just dumped them right there. My now hubby said sex too lol but there was something about his eyes and the way we talked that made me stay... Good luck!
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (18 June 2008):
 Knowing whether or not someone is genuine is hard to predict but getting to know someone first, helps.
Spend some time getting to know someone before dating, meet his family and closest friends. Look at what kind of family/friends he has. Are they good people or scandalous? I know judging someone by the people he is around isnt always right but it can give you some clues.
Most of the time, if you are a genuinly good person you will surround yourself with good people.
Hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): Easy. Give it a couple of months before you have sex. If he's a player he will more than likely move on.
Good luck
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