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writes:Hi Everybody,Apparently a woman I have recently met through a female friend "likes me". Although I don't know how much, she is the same age as me (46). I have spoken to her a couple of times and she seems OK and looks like she likes a laugh and a joke. She is not the type I would normally go for nor is she in the age bracket I currently go for. In fact I like my "friend" much better. Also it is only in the last two years have I got the confidence to go up to women and introduce myself. I have loads of female friends and acquaintances.I have not dated in 20 years in fact I have only taken my Best Friend to dinner (3 times). I am not currently looking for a partner or a relationship, however I am looking for some adult fun and pleasure.What is the best way to say - You're OK but don't fancy you, but hey, maybe let's go out once in a while and just enjoy ourselves.I don't want to hurt anyones feelings.Your answers please would be most appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): I agree with the aunties that you don't need to explain yourself to her. If she asks, however, you can just say something like "I like your sense of humour (or whatever you like about her), but I don't feel that there's any chemistry between us. Maybe we can be friends" (but only say this last bit if you really are interested in a friendship with her. Otherwise, the "sorry, but no chemistry here" explanation suffices. Better to be upfront and honest at the start. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): Well if she told you through a friend, you don't have to say anything unless she asks you in person or keeps pestering the friend to tell you
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (2 December 2009):
Well it depends on how much you talk to one another. Do you two have daily conversations or is it just sporatically? I think if she just has a "crush" on you, then you're not really obligated to tell her anything. It's not like you two have been going out on dates. If she likes you, then just keep it friendly but don't lead her on into believing that you may have some interest in her if you don't. There's no point in going out with her once in a while and just having fun when you're not really that interested in her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): Be Honest tell her the way u feel and u would like to go out but as fiends to se what happens you or any one else will always be in a position were one likes the other more so sometimes peole get hurt you can not always help that and cannot do anythink about it show restrane do not let it become phyicalbecuse that really courses problens
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