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writes:I'm in high-school, grade 10. I am supposed to be in Grade 11, but I dropped out of school when I was in grade 8, so I had to re-do it over. I had 3 morning classes, but dropped out of them. So, I lost 3 easy credits. I don't know what I'm going to do? I don't want to be a high-school dropout. I wanna go places in life. But I don't know how to keep myself motivated enough to keep myself in school. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, iloveblue +, writes (9 November 2011):
 Don't be the one who regrets not being able to finish school. Many people didn't think about this, but when time came, most if not all will honestly say that he/she regret that he did not finish school. Ofcourse with the exception of Steve Jobs, he got lucky and it was matched with his talent and skill. But not everyone is him you see, that's why he is famous. Many people are exception like the movie stars maybe but to not finish school and rely on these facts is very risky for your future.My father passed away when I was in grade 10 and one of the things he reminded me and my siblings is to not give up on our education. He and my mom may not give everything to us for our future but it is only through education that they can help us shape our future. And we were a very poor family then. Even more when he died coz my mom was jobless and just a plain housewife.This was my motivation during my university years. No matter how hard it is to pay for my school fees, I did it slowly. I finished kinda late, but who is to say now that i wasted my time? No one! If for my mother's motivation to keep on trying to finish, I would not be what I am now. My cousins who came from rich families had spent their school allowances to booze and guys. Now, they are housewives with kids and husbands who are jobless as well. They are struggling to live each day. When I visit them, they would ask me for money to buy milk or medicine. Always they would tell me "I wish I had not quit my schooling before or I will not be suffering like this now."No one can take away education from you, what you learn in school and the experience you get from it is yours and yours alone. If you can afford to go to school now, grab that opportunity. There's just so many people in the world who wish to go to school but they can't. You can!With the kind of world we live today, there's just too much competition going around. Because jobs are too few and people are too many, the qualifications for a job is getting difficult. Now, companies don't only want a college degree, they want post graduate degrees like masters or Ph.d's. How would you compete with them if you stop your education now?It's never too late to start again. I flunked my Engineering courses many times but I still went on. It's not too late for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2011): What is home life like? Supportive? Were you raised in a warm, loving home where your dreams and hopes were encouraged?Do you have fear of failure? Currently unhappy with anything in your lifeIts seems you are caught in a loop of self sabotage.Self sabotage usually is a cycle of we set out to make choices that re-instate something we believe about ourselves.You may WANT and KNOW that a highschool diploma means you will go places and that you don't want to be a highschool drop out- but you may also perceive you do not deserve it so you subconciously start sleeping in, avoiding classes and then drop classes.1) Seek a supportive, understanding Counsellor at your Highschool.2) Maybe reassess if taking on a whole day of school is overwhelming and maybe start off with just afternoon classes.3) Get a part time job to offset having no classes and keep yourself busy by making some money, which will help you with feeling better about yourself. You can control your circumstances and lifes path by doing these things.4) The goal is to get a highschool diploma so you are still acheiving this by being in school. It also takes others longer to accomplish the same goal but focus on what you ARE DOING and that you are still heading towards that goal.The fear of life after highschool and the cycle of self sabotage is more occurant than you think.You are doing good. Just don't give up on yourself- you will get there.Also start hanging with friends who encourage and support you staying in school and classes. Even if it means adopting a fellow, trusted friend to drag you to classes. Team work is another way to combat the blues.All The Best Kiddo!*hugs*
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (9 November 2011):
 It sounds like you know the consequences of dropping out and that it would impact your life greatly. You also have a good grasp on the clear reasons why staying in school is in your best interest.
You sound like you're feeling like you're starting to slip underwater emotionally, so to speak. Your brain and intellect are reaching out above the surface, but you're slipping and feeling helpless.
This is the time where you need to talk to someone, maybe on a professional basis. First thing's first -- talk to your school counselor without delay. If you have no counselor, a principal would help. You are also in Canada, so you want to talk to your parents about getting some help from a therapist or psychologist. The chemistry of the human brain is very complex indeed, and your helpless feelings could be a sign of a chemical imbalance. Keep in mind -- I'm no doctor, but your "rational" self knows you need help.
Don't be afraid! Start talking to everyone who loves you -- school, parents, eventually a doctor. They will help you before it's too late! Good for you for reaching out now and not 10 years down the line after getting into a situation you can't get out of. Don't wait until you start doing something destructive to yourself, and good luck to you! I think you'll be okay, especially since you're aware now that you need help!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (9 November 2011):
It sounds like you know the consequences of dropping out and that it would impact your life greatly. You also have a good grasp on the clear reasons why staying in school is in your best interest.
You sound like you're feeling like you're starting to slip underwater emotionally, so to speak. Your brain and intellect are reaching out above the surface, but you're slipping and feeling helpless.
This is the time where you need to talk to someone, maybe on a professional basis. First thing's first -- talk to your school counselor without delay. If you have no counselor, a principal would help. You are also in Canada, so you want to talk to your parents about getting some help from a therapist or psychologist. The chemistry of the human brain is very complex indeed, and your helpless feelings could be a sign of a chemical imbalance. Keep in mind -- I'm no doctor, but your "rational" self knows you need help.
Don't be afraid! Start talking to everyone who loves you -- school, parents, eventually a doctor. They will help you before it's too late! Good for you for reaching out now and not 10 years down the line after getting into a situation you can't get out of. Don't wait until you start doing something destructive to yourself, and good luck to you! I think you'll be okay, especially since you're aware now that you need help!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 November 2011):
 Look in to what you would like to do in the future. You must have some idea on what you want to do when you leave school, if so well look at what you need to do in order to achieve your goals in life. If you look at things in black and white well then it will give you motivation to carry on at school if you know that it is needed for something. Draw up a life plan and look at what you want out of life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2011): You are just going to have to get serious about school I'm afraid, and push yourself to actually go there and get good marks. The only person who can motivate you is yourself.
I'm afraid that out there in the real world, your future employer isn't going to care if you didn't like school or some subjects because they were boring and you couldn't be bothered going, they are only going to hire the person that shows they put in the effort
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