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writes:Hey im a 17 and ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for just over a year. We both lost our virginty to each other and i was the first person he had ever done anything sexually with. Heres the part that will most probally shock alot of people. weve been having sex for 10 months and i have never moved on top of him, ive been on top with him thrusting inside me but ive never moved on top of him. Hes asked me too and even guided me slightly but i guess im not really sure what to do so i end up barely moving and things get rather boring. Ive decided i want to change this, 1. ive always wanted to be able to move and watch him get satisfied without him having to do anything and 2. because my boyfriend is wanting blow jobs more as he says its nice to just lie there and not have to do anything as its very pleasurable ( weve talked about this alot, and he says he prefers sex but he doesnt want to move all the time) So tomorrow i want to suprise him by suggesting i go on top, and then with all the confidence that ive built up and the advice that im hoping i will recieve( some step by step guides would also be nice! haha) give him a mind blowing performance. In advance anyone who gives me any answers or advice it will be massivley appreciated! Women and men all advice and experience will be a great help!Thank you xx
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reader, MrsSkillz  +, writes (10 January 2009):
My most favorite position on top is called "The Backwards CowGirl"!!! lol im on top but facing the other direction so my bunns are all in his view! sitting this way i can lean back, sit straight up and lay forwards where you can wrap your legs around his waist almost and get some nice penetration.. or even when your arms or what not get tired, use his legs to grasp.. You may like this one as much as i do. lol Good luck!!!
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reader, stellaforstar +, writes (10 January 2009):
 Confidence is key. Make sure you've got a good rhythm established with him, for example when hes thrusting up you sit back down. Also, my boyfriend particularly likes when you give a good side view or when you sit back and give him a good view of your whole body. Keep eye contact and most of all... ENJOY YOURSELF!!
If you're having fun chances are he's watching and its driving him crazy too..
Goodluck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): Hello darling! I also was really worried about going on top at first but I've found a way to keep us both happy, get him to sit up too and hold you tight so like against the headboard or on a chair or sofa. It's not as difficult and it feels nicer for both of you so you cannot lose! Then just move your bum up and down or backwards and forwards or both! I hope you know what I mean so he's sat up, your sat on top of him and your doing all the work without the fear of been completly exposed. It's nice like that because you get all sweaty and it feels really close my bloke loves it!
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reader, iAshiee +, writes (9 January 2009):
My boyfriend is the SAME way! He's told me there are days where he just wants to "lay back and enjoy". I was nervous myself for awhile, but once you get the hang of it, it's pretty easy.
When you get on top of him, don't move right away. Position yourself so you're leaning forward (your breasts in his face, pretty much) so your butt is somewhat sticking up in the air. Slowly, start to go down, and then up. Start increasing your speed and when you feel he's getting closer, stop and slow down again. Another great way is to lean back where you're on your knees, and rock your hips in a circular motion, lifting yourself up and down ontop of him. (I hope all of this makes sense!) Another way I've found out that makes my guy get more into it, is when I'm leaning back, I massage his inner thighs and his balls as I'm slowly rotating my hips.
Asking him to put his hands on you while you're doing it and to show you what he wants is a great way. I know how frustrating it can be, because you want to pleasure your man, but trust me! If he loves sex with you, you're already doing something right!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): Ok. You get on top and insert the ol' spam javelin. Sink right down on it until you can't possibly get it in any further. Tell him to lay perfectly still because you're about to give him a mind-blowing bonk.
Before you rise up again, tighten your pelvic floor muscles - just as if you were stopping peeing in mid-stream - and slowly rise up so that the head of his penis only just comes out of your vagina, release the muscles and quickly drop back down again. Wait a few seconds, tighten muscles and rise again. Repeat ad infinitum. It won't be too long before he blows off, and he'll be wondering where you learned that trick from. Don't tell him it was me or he might think you've been unfaithful and come after me.
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reader, tinylass +, writes (9 January 2009):
 this is a great website where men and women have put there views on what they like on top so give it a try
http://ask.metafilter.com/49187/Tips-for-woman-on-top-position
hope this helps good luck x
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (9 January 2009):
 I'm taking a guess that you do it missionary position? Correct me if I'm wrong...Anyway, if you are doing it that style then I think you could maybe push your groin up and down in the rhythm of his thrusts and kiss him long and deep. Maybe improvise a little and do something you know he likes/will like. Also plant little kisses on his chest and neck. Most importantly though, have fun!
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