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writes:I expressed interest in guy that I had my eye on 9 months ago but I was politely rebuffed. I felt embarrassed but brushed it .However,I try to be polite and friendly whenever our path cross but things are extremely awkward between us.I wish things could go back the way they were between us but he acts awkward ... avoids eye contact and he's standoffish--which results me from feeling awkward in return. I still feel embarrassed even months later. Is this normal? Will the embarrassment feeling ever go away Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 January 2017):
 He probably does not want to be friendly with you again in case you feel he is interested. He probably does not want you thinking that he is leading you on. Try not to be embarrassed we all get rejected in life. When you see him just a simple hello will do and leave it at that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2017): At the risk of being wrong may I suggest you just blank him for a while!
Dont even bother with "hi, hello how are you?"
Just walk past looking fine as you do but give him no words.
If theres going to be words leave it up to him!
Or just look down at your watch and check the time as in "Youre on time out now!"
It might redress the balance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice WiseOwl
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2017): Yes, but only when you stop holding on to it. Your pride is hurt, and you're punishing yourself with shame for a very human mistake.
Let him be standoffish and behave anyway he likes. Stand proud and be yourself at all times. Retain your dignity, he is not the only guy in the world, and your attempt was simply a miss. Stuff happens.
Pretend you're okay until you actually are. Smile and nod as you pass-by. Look straight-forward, chin-up, chest-out! You'll be some other guy's treasure at some point; and he may even look back someday and wonder why he didn't go for it. Even if that never happens... so what, who cares!
Next time you make eye-contact, give him a broad smile; and in you head, imagine and visualize sticking your tongue out at him. It will feel marvelous!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Danizen and I tried to be still friendly and always say hi to him but there's still that awkward vibe between us--He is not as friendly as he used to.The thing is, I turned down in the past and things were never awkward between us.I still acted the same as I did before they asked me out so it was never awkward .
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (7 January 2017):
 It was fair enough to show interest - why not. He wasn't in to you so OK - but it's no big deal.
Now perhaps he is acting awkward because he senses your discomfort. Lighten up.
Get on with lining up a more worthy prize - one who will truly appreciate you. It's an imperative.
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