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writes:Trying to get my wife to wear anything even a little sexy to bed. Nothing elaborate- would be thrilled for 5 min in a thong or anything beside cotton boring briefs.Been married 15 years- she is beautiful. Don't feel like this should be asking for the world. Otherwise great marriage, much love and fun. Just gets frustrating when she knows how much it would mean to me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Lkjhgfdsa +, writes (10 February 2013):
Well has she ever worn them before? I'd say get a few different options for her because everyone likes something different. Make sure you have her size. And do something she wants to do it'll probably make her do it more
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2012): Have you asked her why she won't?
Maybe she is mad at you about something unrelated?
Because I agree, this does seem like an odd request to decline.
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reader, Dj hm +, writes (12 November 2012):
Dj hm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCally I get it. But I am honestly hoping she puts them on and walks straight over to the bed. And it isn't like thongs or nothing. Bought her some nice and somewhat more comfortable options at VC - those seem to go to the bottom of the drawer and die.
I am just as in love with her and attracted to her when we first started dating. I guess guys don't change and women do?
Great life, 3 kids, my wife wanted to stay home and can, equal partner in everything from kids to housework. Just feels like such a slap in the face when she knows how happy she could make me and doesn't.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (12 November 2012):
My father used to call thongs 'butt floss' and then laugh.
I thought he was just trying to be funny until I bought and wore my first thong back in high school. It was incredibly uncomfortable and I felt like I had a wedgie constantly. It was so terrible that if I hadn't been completely mortified by the thought of going panty-less, I would have. By the end of the day, i was chaffed raw between my cheeks by my first thong...'butt floss' described them perfectly.
Until you've worn a pair for a day...until you've experienced the unique discomfort only 'butt floss' can bring...until you've walked at least a mile (preferably in heels too) with scratchy lace or elastic catching on tiny hairs and ripping them out while the skin between your cheeks becomes more and more irritated, then sweaty, then even more irritated...until you've experienced a thong for yourself you will never understand why your wife doesn't want to wear one any longer than she has to when she tries to look good while going out with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2012): sorry, hit the wrong box - I am 39.Here is the part that kills me - she will wear a thong when we go out so her clothes look great...but then when we are ready to go to bed she will actually change out of them.Saves them for a Bday/anniversary type "gift" - so I am sure not the most comfortable, but willing to do it and does so about monthly. I just get no benefit from it :)
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (12 November 2012):
 I echo what grymsoul has said - how can you have been married 15 years when you are 26-29? That is just nonsense!
Back to the actual question - buy her some sexy lingerie (not a thong though, many women dont like wearing them because they are uncomfortable and dont feel at all sexy). A nice bra and matching french knickers, or even just a pair of silk briefs would be an improvement I guess! If you buy it for her she will at least try it on for you, and fingers crossed she will see how pleased you are and she might like it.
Thongs feel like a piece of cheesewire stuck up your backside and all you want to do is pull it out - not sexy! Buy her something she will feel comfortable in and that will help her feel sexy and confident. Maybe try buying her a nice negligee or some sexy pyjamas for bed, that might be something that she feels more comfortable in but you still find sexy.
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reader, grymsoul +, writes (12 November 2012):
 Just curious. You said that you have been married 15 years. But your age is 29 at the most. Does that mean you were fourteen (younger?) when you and your wife were wed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2012): I don't think its asking for much either. Have you considered your wife's feelings on the matter? Is this out of her comfort zone? If she is anything like me thongs hurt! I have junk in the trunk and thongs are out of the question. I can get them bigger than my regular panty size and the are way too uncomfortable. When I explained that to my husband he understood and to my knowledge it's not a problem. Would you compromise on a sexy bikini? They have sex appeal and far more comfortable.I don't think it's a matter of not pleasing you but a matter of comfort. If you think they don't hurt for even 5 minutes , try on a pair and see if you will be singing the same tune. Good luck to you.
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