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writes:So, I am 22 years old and I am wanting to settle down. The single life style just isn't satisfying anymore. It seams that more and more of my friends are getting serious, engaged, married, etc, where I clearly am not. I could use some advice on ways to settle down. Should I act a certain way around single men? Should I pay attention to certain things when meeting men?I really don't understand why I haven't found someone serious by now. I'm really down to earth, I'm not premiscuous, etc. Thanks.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 June 2009):
 Well, your friends are settling down, so where are they meeting the men who want to settle down with them. And for your male friends, who are the girls they are settling down with?
Monkey see, monkey do. Maybe, just maybe however you don't want to settle down. Oh, it might be right thing to do, you keep telling yourself but do you REALLY want to?
Because, you are smart enough to have thought of the advice given in the first paragraph yourself. Why didn't you?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (8 June 2009):
 Hi there darling,
They always say - you find a man when you're not looking for it. And that's always the way it goes, isn't it? You're only 22, and you're still a hot young thing in the dating game... so I would just continue meeting guys, dating, seeing who feels right and who doesn't - I wouldn't go out with the agenda of finding a husband. Usually that just scares guys off or attracts the really clingy or possessive fellas.
I would say that picking up guys in clubs or bars is probably not the best direction to go - those guys are usually looking to just hook up. Be sure you're not sleeping with guys right away or coming on WAY too strong. Just be yourself, have fun dating and you'll settle down when you're ready and when you find a guy worth settling down with.
Good luck, sweetness and don't feel rushed to get married and have babies. You're young, you have plenty of time to get all of that stuff done in the future!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): No I think you should be yourself, and if you get into a relationship, wait until you're both serious before you tell him you'd like to settle down. It depends on who the guy is how strongly you feel about him. You're still young so you've got plenty of time to find the right guy to get married and have kids with.
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reader, Lee51  +, writes (8 June 2009):
Wow im a 25 yr male and i feel totally the same way except my girlfriend of 5 years is only 20 and she is starting to have second thoughts about us and asked for a break.
You just got to find the right guy hun, there is some good guys out there not taken. Just be true to your values and be yourself. Have fun :) Youll find him soon!
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