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writes:About two years ago I met a man at work. He was charming, sweet, made me laugh, and above all seemed to respect me. We went out on several dates during our first year together, we drank, laughed and just had a great time. Then the unthinkable happened, I got pregnant. I did not know what to do. I sought counsel from my sisters and they told me to keep the baby. So when I went to him and told him my decision, and he told me to abort it. I decided to keep the baby and cut him out of my life. My baby is 7 months old now and he is sleeping with other women and openly tells me these things. He tells me I need to "accept him for the way he is now..." mostly conversations by text. One of his psycho girls is emailed me at work last week and said she saw my pictures in his phone that he still kept and was saying that I am trash and I should be with him because he is trash too. Because I work with him I do not know how to get away from this drama with him. If I leave my job I will not be able to support me and the baby and if I stay there I will never get out of this hole I am in because no one at work knows about us. I can't claim child support either because I don't trust him with my baby. What should I do now?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (25 October 2010):
 This is why I always advise people not to get involved with co-workers. Because if it goes sour, then you can't escape them. Now unless he wants a relationship with the baby which you have to allow since he is the father, I would fight to make sure they're supervised, then you can still go after him for child support. Is it possible to put into a transfer? Maybe to another branch, or a different area in the building where he doesn't work. Or how about telling your boss of your personal issue with him, and asking him/her to move you to another area, because you'd rather him not affect your work performance. Other than that you have no choice but to face the music everyday..I would tell him, if he doesn't start coughing up child support, you will have the state go after him and for him to keep it professional at work, you could care less about his drama. And proceed to ignore him unless you absolutely have to communicate with him work related.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Are you absolutely certain receiving child support means you have to give him access? I would see proper legal advise on this if I were you.
As for having to work with him, are you able to request a move to a different section of the company? Does the company have a HR department or person you could talk with?
As for him communicating with you by text, have you considered changing your number and then making sure he doesnt have it? Or even finding out if you can block his number? If you did that and he still contacted you, it would be considered harrassment. There will be a solution, you just need to think outside the box.
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