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writes:How do you bring the spark back into a relationship when it is suffered from external factor, that can be sorted out, but put strain on the relationship.Ideas on bringing the spark back would be appreciated!
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reader, Probablylucy +, writes (14 November 2010):
 I can tell you exactly what put the spark back in my dying relationship, and it's one thing: Space. When me and my boyfriend felt that things were getting a little stale, we decided to take a break. within 3 days he arrived at my door, telling me how much he loved me, he couldn't survive 3 days without me and he can't believe he took our relationship for granted. It's one Idea. However if space isn't the thing thats causing the problem, than this could send mixed messages if you announce 'we should go on a break'.
However if it is something specific that has effected your relationship, perhaps that you need to tackle that issue before you can focus on bringing the spark back. Maybe a distraction is what dimmed it in the first place.
Also, from a girl's point of view, I know a sure-fire way of regaining a spark, and it's the element of surprise. It's simple but trust me, it works. Surprise her. Organize a weekend away, be spontaneous and organised. A weekend away might also spice things up in the bedroom department?
(However, if you don't have the money or time for something big, just do something little, like flowers or a present)
Good luck and I hope all goes well! x
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (14 November 2010):
It's funny, but one of the most successful things I found in bringing the spark back into my relationship was calling each other cute silly names and just being dumb and couply together. We hit a rough spot and it was hard for awhile, and we started saying I love you less and less. But somehow we found our way back with time, and the thing that seems to work really well is just that silly stuff you wouldn't do with anyone else.
Other things are lots of physical touch - cuddling. Going out on special dates. More intimate communication.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): hey,
i would suggest special outings, picnics, movies, just show her you care. and even loads of sex - lets face it.
just think of the things that you used to do when you first started the relationship and start from there, sometimes a little care is all thats needed.
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