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writes:How can I get rid of habit of masturbating?I guess I began to mastb since I was at primary school. Sometimes I do hate it, but I can't help doing it again. I feel upset each time after I do it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2009): You need to stop feeling bad about it, not stop masturbating. As others have told you masturbation is good for you, it's healthy and there are no moral implications to it as long as you're clean about it.
Stopping is not a good idea, I stopped for a month with some friends as a bet. I found that after a week I was getting inapporpriate erections from even the slightest human contact or woman wearing revealing clothes, I also started having "wet dreams" something which is unavoidable, because if you decide to stop your body will find other ways of releasing it because it needs to in order to keep producing fresh healthy sperm. All my friends had the exact same experience as I did when they stopped but by far the worst side effect was a noticable increase in aggression and irritability in us.
Just get over your guilt, everyone does it and there's no good reason to feel guilty about it at all.
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (9 December 2009):
Masturbation is good for you!! It's relaxing, pleasurable, safe and lets you develop a good understanding with your body. If other people (such as a wife or girlfriend) is allowed to touch you down there - why shouldn't you? You know yourself better than anyone.
Maturbation is only a problem if a person:
1) does it in public or in front of other people who are offended by it (whether on purpose or by accident)
2) prefers masturbation to real sex with another person and actually avoids mutual sexual activity
3) feels compelled to masturbate so much that it causes problems in their daily life e.g. cancels appointments or dates so they can masturbate instead or visits the bathroom every hour at work to masturbate or stops spending time with family.
If these things do apply to you, you may need some help from a doctor qualified in addictions but I'm sure you're just a normal guy with the average desires that all guys his age have.
Go masturbate - it's good for you. Don't feel guilty (I don't)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2009): there is nothing wrong with masterbation as long as its not taking over your life - its healthy to explore and enjoys ones on body. If you want to quit so to speak - perhaps limited how often you do it or take up a hobbie to get your frustration out in other ways. Go for a run, cold shower etc. No idea if they actually work but they may. Also try not to worry, what you are doing is healthy and normal - please try not to feel bad, maybe the more you focus on it the more you want it. Its kind of like me on a diet - when eatting normally i eat chocolate every so often, but when on a diet i want it every single minute of every day because i have told myself i will not have it. I then hate myself for giving in. But i figured out that if i didn't focus on it and just accpeted as part of my life every so often, then i didn't want or need it so bad. Maybe this a girl thing, no idea lol. But thought it may help, think of masterbation as your chocolate, enjoy it as part of a healthy life and maybe you won't feel you need it as often. Just a thought.
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