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writes:Okay. i really really like this guy im friends with. since December these feelings have intensified and are getting stronger. Well in January he got back with his ex gf. they had dated b4 for about 6 months and broke up November last year. so then January they got back together. Well my feelings never went away and how they are broken up again. ( yes she broke up with him with both times). well they broke up around 2 weeks ago. he tld me after they had been broken up a week. (we don't live the same town, his two hours away, but his ex lives the sane town as me). Well anyway he said he took it worse then he thought he would, but was healing very slowly. Anyway my question is how long shuld i wait before telling him how i feel. i dint want be a rebound that why i ask. so how long would u wait? Thanks in advance.
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reader, N91  +, writes (18 June 2012):
 It's possible to have a very close platonic relationship and it's gotten to that point for him where it's gone way beyond ever being able to have romantic feelings for you.
One of my best friends is a girl I've known for about 7 years and neither of us have developed anything more than a friendship.
I'm sorry to hear that things didn't work out for you, you will find someone eventually, good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i left it too late... he has been seeing soneone for the last two weeks. said they have always had a lot in common hut never acted on it until now. . and also said as much as he doesn't want to hurt me we just arent compatible enough. (as much as i am amazingly attractive he said)'that it would never work and up to me if we are still friends. well thank you and just thought i'd let you know what happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i fb msg him this morning telling i liked him more then friends. ( didn't use the love word coz i think that should always be done on person) so didnt think we could be friends coz it was hurting me. and i hoped he didnt hate me. well he hasn't replied yet ( thanks to fb new thing i know he received it) so i think i have messed up telling him. And i dont feel any better having told him. well thanks for the advice. the rest is up to him now. xx
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reader, N91 +, writes (7 June 2012):
Maybe over time, because you will be hurt if he doesn't feel the same, so don't rush anything in regards to staying friends, if you need time away from him afterwards, then take it.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for the advice. i havent told him yet. but i will be seeing him tomorrow, and telling how i feel. socthank yous for ur opinions. i knowci might blow it, and ruin the friendship; bt i just gotta hope that if he does not feel the same, we can at least stay friends. xx
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reader, N91 +, writes (26 May 2012):
This is a hard one, as right now he needs to friend to be there for him, but if you leave it too long, he might see you as too good a friend, or like a sister, which is worst case scenario for you. But if you tell him too soon, and he's not over her yet, then he's probably still not going to be interested.
Maybe after a little while you'll just get the feeling that the time is right to tell him as this one is a little hard to judge, sorry I couldn't be more help.
Good luck
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 May 2012):
 This is still very raw for him, it is obvious he has deep feelings for her when he took her back a second time and now she has left him again so off course he is going to be hurt and upset, and it is going to take him a while to recover. I don't think there is any set time frame on how long someone should wait. I think you might no the answer to that one once you see changes in him. Keep in contact with him as a friend and be there for him. But you need to make sure that you realise that all you can be at the moment is a friend, if you give in to your feelings, then you would only be a rebound.
Once you feel that he is sending off signals that he is ready to move forward then maybe you can then tell him you have feelings for him, but please do not get your hopes up because he might only see you as a friend and nothing more.
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