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writes:I was wondering when most people uttered those three little words? My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months (have been exclusive/in a committed relationship for almost 3), but we have not said "I love you" yet. In your opinion, how soon is too soon, and how late is too late? I mean, I can't fathom being in this relationship for a year without being told he's in love with me.... Oh, and I REFUSE to say it first. I have a huge fear of rejection, but I also recall that he said he does as well. So what's a reasonable amount of time before saying I love you?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 March 2012):
 There is no timetable for when saying "I love you" is appropriate. You say it when you feel it.
When I started to feel love for my now fiancé I didn't want to say "i love you" because ours was NOT that kind of a relationship... and instead I said "DAMN you to hell" and now he takes that to mean "i love you"... which it often does... or we say 'mine" when we cuddle... it's not something that gets said very often in our world... but our actions indicate that there is love...
IF you feel that you love him but don't tell him, and he feels that he loves you but won't tell you then you guys are at a stalemate.
my partner warned me in the beginning he does not say "i love you" and he doesn't say it often but every so often he will say it and then I know he means it.
I used to say it A LOT in other relationships now I rarely say it... it's just words...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2012): I love you & I'm in love with you is completly different,
6 months isn't long enough to be "In love" usually however it could be possible however,
He may also think they're the same so he may wait longer because of that
Just wait for the right time until it's perfect for him to say it,v you can't rush him into it, just enjoy being in such a great relationship honestly, the later it happens the more meaningful it is
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