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writes: Usually how long parents have to feel responisible for their grown up kids life?I started to feel that it will never end, and I love them but I feel I can never have my life back!I know some people want to do this forever, but am I wrong if I want to stop now?What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tigerlily  +, writes (21 June 2009):
Seems like we need a bit more information before we can weigh in. How old is your kid? Is it one kid or more than one? How are they looking to you to be responsible? are we talking about cat-sitting here? Did s/he lose their job in this tough economy and move in with you? Is it more than that?
I'd say decide where your own personal boundaries are and then gently but firmly set them - then back them up. Be loving - they are your kids after all - but also be strong. Tell them exactly what you expect them to be able to do for themselves, but that you will always be there with love and support.
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