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36-40,
anonymous
writes:This is going to sound odd and probably not make sense but I do need some advice.How is it possible to have an attraction to someone who doesn't attract you physically and mentally??I have to deal with this man, on a professional level every other month and since I 1st met him- nearly a year ago I am really attracted to him even though he isn't good looking and our personalities don't exactly click BUT there is something about him and here's the odd part- I can't stop thinking about him and my gut instinct keeps telling me we belong together!!! It's like I know we have a future together ..... I can't even explain it.As I said we deal with each other on a professional level- we don't flirt or anything so why on earth do I have these feelings for him??? I've had crushes in the past - to men I'm actually attracted to or that have a great personality but this isn't the same feeling....Can anyone shed any light on this?
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reader, thoughtsshared +, writes (3 July 2014):
 It seems that you are attracted to him on a human level - you feel there's something that might complement your personality.
If he feels the same then you have the potential for a great friendship. Approach him as a friend and don't send signals that you see him as anything other than a friend for now as this might complicate or ruin things.
A lot of friendships outlast love relationships and end up being more fulfilling in the long term. Once you get to know him better you'll both be in a better position to see where your friendship might lead.
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