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writes:How do you tell your best friend of nearly 10 yrs that you're deeply in love with her and that she's your whole world. How do I make her comfortable about it all? How will I know when the right time is to tell her? What sort of place or position should we be in? Should I ask her to meet me because I need to talk to her or do I just tell her when we are out together normally just hanging out? Please help all mine and her friends that hang around with us says that she definitely feels the same but somehow that doesn't really help me being nervous.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): I have been in a situation where my friend was in love with me, and still is, but I didnt feel the same way about him and still dont, although I care dearly about him. However I think if she knew how you felt, you would have some comfort knowing that she knows you're into her, and perhaps at a later stage, things could work out for you. Sometimes, if they know how you feel, they may start to have those feelings that you do. Although you may be very nervous, find somewhere quiet to tell her, and dont just go straight to the point, tell her that you have grown very fond of her, and see what her reply is. If she says something like, "yeah I've grown fond of you too!" Man, you're in there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): If I were you, I wouldnt dive in just yet. DIp your toe in and test the water! next time you're with her see if you can subtly steer the conversation onto relationships and see what shes looking for in a relationship or guy or whatever and look for indicators that she is referring to you. If she suspects that you are 'testing the water' and feels the same as you, then she might throw the same questions back at you, or make you answer first, then you'll know if its a sure thing or not.
Good luck. I hope its mutual!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (18 March 2007):
 Let her know you care very deeply for her and would love to ask her out on a proper date. See what she says, who knows she might feel exactly the same way and just doesn't know how to tell you. There's no special time or place to do this, just ask her when you are alone together, tell her how comfortable you feel around her and ask her out on a "proper" date.
Eve
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reader, Jynxy +, writes (18 March 2007):
 Think carefully before telling her, are you ready to take your friendship to a new level or face rjection? or incase it doesnt work out are you ready to face the fact it might all not be the same again?
Speaking from personal experience i know what your situation can turn out like.
Also because you have been around her so long, you will begin to feel attracted to her, and that can be a good thing or a bad thing.
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