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writes:Hi,sorry if this seems a bit stupid for my age.Does anyone have any tips on how to talk to girls randomly? I mean chance encounters with people in the street kinda thing. I just lack the opening line so the speak.For example there was a girl in a supermarket today, and our glances met. i just looked away, almost being shy kinda thing. afterwards i wish id gone and spoken to her, but i wouldn't have known what to say, i guess thats why i didn't.I'm fine meeting girls through friends and sports clubs etc, you talk about the sport and the conversation goes from there. But its just chance encounters im no good at. Also, how do you not know her bf is around the corner or something? it could look very dodgy...Any tips?Thankyou!
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (28 December 2007):
 Its really hard that first initial ice breaker, what to say ect. I would start with do your homework first. For instance if you are in a supermarket acetain that she has not got a boyfriend/husband up another aisle first. Check out her basket/trolley, you can get a pretty good idea if she buying for 1 or 2, and always clock the wedding finger too. The wine aisle is a good place to start, ask her something about the wine, or recommend a good one, you could also say is that for you and your boyfriend tonight. This is a good way of finding out if she is single or not as she will either say yes it is, or no i don't have a boyfriend, if its the latter then you can progress a little further. I would say its a little trickier in the street, i would not say many girls would feel totally comfortable about being approached in the street. I think in this case it will be the use of direct eye contact and smiles, if you get a look and a smile back then this is good. Then start taking this route regularly as you might see her again, this time you could comment on the weather, and you could progress a little more each time. But i reckon the best place to meet girls would be your sports club/gym. I talk to loads of girls at my gym, and you have all got something in common too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): When you pick out a girl from just looks at a supermarket you can’t know if her personality, background and character are right for you. So try to find out about her family, her values, what you have in common, likes and dislikes etc before getting in any deeper.
The reason for saying that is, for example, in my life I have met nice people, but also encountered people with bad mental attitudes and wished someone had told me how to differentiate. The way a person looks can not guide you. Don’t be alarmed by what I say, but learn early in your life how to discriminate and filter out bad options early. Match up her values and interests to see if they are like yours. Ask her about herself.
To get things started you could say something like; “I like your face, it makes me want to know more about you, so how could I do that?”
Then you have given her the problem to solve. She may take you up, she may decline, but at least you would have asked in a cool way.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): If possible use the setting you're in. For example, you see a girl in a restaurant. Ask if she's tried a certain food. Or, if you're at the movies, ask if she's seen I Am Legend or something similar. Good luck!
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