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writes:How do you stop jealousy? There's a girl I'm great friends with and I really like her but she's not interested. It's really painful to hear her talking about going on dates and the sex she's having and stuff. To make matters worse she keeps going back to this same bloke who treats her like shit. At the end of the day it's her life and if she wants to keep going back to him that's up to her but I can't stop these feelings of jealousy. The thought of what they got up to is killing me. How can I stop being jealous? It's made even worse because I'm a virgin and have never even had a blow job. That's what she's doing to him. I'm too ugly for love and no girl will could ever be attracted to me so I can't get a girlfriend. If I could stop this jealousy I'd be all right but I can't. So, how do I stop it?
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reader, AskEve +, writes (27 March 2010):
 Jealousy is rife in the world today especially in relationships. Feelings such as jealousy are based on fear and do not come from love at all, we say we feel like this BECAUSE we love the person but this isn't the case at all. Jealousy comes from wanting to possess and wanting to own or have. One cannot own another being or even the mind of another being. One being cannot live for another.
Remember that FEAR stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear immobilizes and makes it virtually impossible for people to think effectively because it bypasses the pre frontal cortex and goes directly to your right brain emotional center and is thus not even analyzed first!
Feelings such as guilt and worry are in the same category. See what benefits you could possibly derive from sitting in your favourite chair and contemplating as well as experiencing these feelings intensely for a few hours? None of course because they do not deliver any benefit other than getting you into an even greater state of fear. So you see, that jealousy, guilt, fear and worry all belong in the trash bin because they do not deliver any benefit whatsoever. Love on the other hand will get you to understand and be less fearful. This in turn will make it possible for you to experience joy and bliss.
Remember always: You have a mind, your feelings come from your mind therefore you can control your feelings. In other words, YOU are in charge and nobody else. YOU determine the future. And you become what you THINK. Be careful because the universe will deliver that which you THINK!
~Eve~
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): You have to tell her not to speak of those things while you are around. If she will not stop, you might consider ending the relationship; if the jealousy is too much to handle, that is.
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