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writes:There's this boy in my year at school. We're good friends, but he's always hugging me and saying "Wuv you," and telling me how gorgeous I am and flirting with me... He hasn't actually asked me out yet, but, all my other friends think he will soon, and he's actually told my other mates that he apparently loves me. I'm not supposed to know but they told me.I don't have any feelings for him whatsoever, only as a friend and I don't want to lose him as a friend.So what do I see if he asks me out? :S
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reader, heather108  +, writes (23 January 2010):
 If he does finally get the courage to ask you out, you should do it because just dating the guy does not mean you've committed to any long term thing.
The relationship would still be only friendship unless and until you change your mind and want it to be more, and anyway, being paired up with him all the way to the end of this school year may be a good experience for you both.
On the other hand, if you turn him down his feelings would be hurt and you may get a reputation as a touch-me-not.
Playing the game is far more fun than watching.
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (23 January 2010):
Wow that's a tough one. He's fallen for you. Be gentle. If he asks you out then you can gently tell him you cherish his friendship but don't like him in a romantic way. Or since you are so young maybe you can just tell him you really aren't ready for dating yet. Then you will need to give him some space to lick his wounds, but make sure you reach out to him as a friend after some time has passed.
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reader, Sal84  +, writes (23 January 2010):
 Tell him the age old line:-)"You are a really nice person but at this point of time I am not looking at relationship material in you, but yeah you are one of my most cherished friends and I sincerely hope you won't break our friendship and continue to be the way you were with me. I am sure your love for me is not about wanting me but about wanting my happiness and I will be really happy if we remained good friends:-)".
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): If he asks you out as a friend and you want to go out with him as a friend do so. At your earliest convenience tell him in a roundabout way, since you are not supposed to know he is crushing on you, that you find such and such celebrity appealing but that you find no one in the school interesting at all so that he understands that he is not your interest at all. If he presses then just acknowledge what he said, thank him for his regard for you but that you are not ATTRACTED to him at all but consider him a worthwhile friend.
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